My husband was baptized in the Catholic Church. He did not make his First Communion or get confirmed. He feels terrible about this, which is getting more awkward as our fourth (and last) child is going to be recieving her First Communion this spring, leaving him the only one sitting in the pew when we go to recieve during weekly Mass. I feel that he shouldn’t feel guilty about it, as the responsibility for helping him access these Sacraments while in childhood rested soley on his parents. They had three children go through their Sacraments and three they did not follow through on.
We attend Mass regularly, I have taught religious ed for several years, we are active in church, our children have made all their Sacraments on schedule, and, in a strange twist, my husband actually knows more about church history and the bible than I do.
We have heard of some churches where you just go to classes for about 6 weeks and then are confirmed and we know about the RCIA program as well. Is the shortened program appropriate for him to recieve both First Communion and get Confirmed, or is something like that just for Confirmation only. Since he partakes in the regular life of our church, does “First” Communion have to be done, or can we prepare privately and have him start recieving, without a seperate ceremony?
I know, obviously, that the short answer would be to speak with our priest, but I hope people can understand that he feels quite embarrassed by this. I have tried to explain that his reception would be welcoming, but I can understand how hard it is for him to come forward with this. I am actually disappointed that his parents put him in this predicament, especially where they made sure half of their kids followed through, but then left the other half of the family hanging. I have no idea why. It makes me sad that he often wonders if he has no cnance of getting into heaven because he hasn’t been Confirmed.
Any insight or thoughts would be welcome, particularly about the Communion part. CAN he receive with just Baptism? Receiving the rest of his Sacraments is something we have discussed our entire married life, and getting confirmed is something he very much wants to do, but with hectic work and family lives as well as a LONG stretch of difficult times (illness, deaths in family, etc) it hasn’t gotten accomplished yet.
Thank you in advance for any thoughts, wisdom.