My dad said my mom doesn’t give him enough sex weekly like a good wife should.
That’s not your problem, and if your father is making it your problem he is crossing some serious boundaries.
Suggest counseling and then go ride your bike or take a walk. Your response might be an index finger in each ear and a loud “la la la la la” to drown him out.
There are no such scripture passages. However, you may have your Dad read 1 Peter 3:7
Likewise, you husbands should live with your wives in understanding, showing honor to the weaker female sex, since we are joint heirs of the gift of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
Husbands who do not respect their wives will have as little success in prayer as those who, according to Paul, have no love: their prayers will be “a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal” (⇒ 1 Cor 13:1). Consideration for others is shown as a prerequisite for effective prayer also in ⇒ Matthew 5:23-24; ⇒ 1 Cor 11:20-22; ⇒ James 4:3. After all, whatever the social position of women in the world and in the family, they are equal recipients of the gift of God’s salvation. Paul is very clear on this point, too (see ⇒ 1 Cor 11:11-12; ⇒ Gal 3:28).
I would recommend your Dad read Theology Of The Body for Beginners by Christopher West.
Hope this helps
Thanks guys, it just seems like there are so many problems in my family, I feel overwhelmed.
I am sad for your father because he clearly does not understand the true beauty of sex between a husband and a wife. It is NOT about “the woman giving her husband sex”, as if it’s some sort of object that your father is owed. :mad: It is about the couple being TOGETHER in a unitive (and sometimes procreative) act out of love and mutual respect.
And no, your father should not be sharing this information with you. I’m sorry that you are going through what must be a very difficult time for you.
I will say a special prayer for you and your family tonight William.:signofcross:
The gift of sexual love between spouses is ideally a mutual gift, that gives expression to the affection between husband and wife.
Frequent lovemaking builds and maintains the marital bond.
A couple with strong physical affection will be a happier and more satisfied couple.
The bible lays down no law for how often a couple should have sex. It says not to deprive one another, however, so it is up to the couple to decide how often is often enough for them.
I came from a home where my parents fought a lot, and I know that when you live under the same roof, you can hear a lot of things you may not want to. I dearly hope this is how you know about the situation. If your dad is coming to you to complain, you need to tell him that this is an issue for him to work out with your mom and a marriage counsellor if need be. A child (no matter the age) is not qualified, able, or even just an ear for a parent to vent about another parent.
I sincerely hope your family can come together. Stay strong through it all – I know it’s hard. Remember, these are their problems – not yours.
You mean it doesn’t say every day and twice on Friday Night?:shrug:
I must have read that wrong, I’m gonna have to re-check.
No, but it does say that a husband must give his wife sex at LEAST 3 times per week.
William, how old are you?..
.If I remember properly, you are a teen…(if not, forgive me) I find it extremely inappropriate for your father to let you know anything about their sex life.
It isn’t your place to be burdended with this information.
Yes, everyone William P is a teen so we should probably keep the jokes to a minimum because in my heart I truly believe he is asking from a place of wonder and not of trolling or disrespect.
Here is a good understanding of how marriage is supposed to work and it is basically the model of the domestic Church as set up in Chapter 5 of Ephesians which only is understood if read in it’s entirety and not piecemeal.
The Church is the Bride of Christ. A woman should love her groom as the Church loves Christ.However, the flip side is the the husband should love the bride as Christ loves the Church. That being said Christ sacrificed Himself for the Church in an act of Love - and the Church serves Christ. Does that make it simple?
God bless you for asking. And if worst comes to worst count you and your siblings and know that it happenned that many times. :o
Ask you dad not to talk in front of you about things that should be private. If there is anyone on the entire planet that should be studiously excluded from this kind of comment, it is the couple’s teenage son!
You might also tell your dad that no man should be made to listen to criticisms of his mother. Tell him that you count both insults against him and insults against her as insults against you, and you don’t want to hear them. Insist on that with him and with others, and stick to your guns.
William P- From this thread and another thread I am going to go on a limb and say this to you:
I don’t like to bad mouth people’s parents to them - but you have reached an age of discernment as far as religion goes. Yes, that is scary.
I would strongly suggest that now that you have taken some steps to reach out for some information that you may wish to start attending mass on your own. If you would like to start attending CCD or an RCIT program I do not know how that will work out without your parent’s involvement but you can speak to your pastor and then wait until you are 18 and go through RCIA to receive your Sacraments if necessary. At this point you need to learn on your own.
What I do need to say at this point is that yes, missing mass without reason minus illness or taking care of a young child on Sunday (or Saturday evening) is in violation of the commandments which we have been given by God and can equate to mortal sin. Please, allow me to say what a Catholic Bible study group said for me a long time ago while my Catholic father was hiding out in my mother’s Protestant Church: Lord, may this young man, live his life to be a beacon of light for his peers through your calling.
God bless you William in your path and may the Holy Spirit guide you to do what is right for you. It is only when we find that peace for ourselves that we will be able to convince anyone else of what is right for them…
I would tell my father, "Aren’t you a bit too old for sex? ". I’m not sure what else I could say in response to him bringing up such things to his child.
Child, teenager or adult - it’s completely innappropriate for your father to tell you this! But incidentally, there is no such scripture, only that husbands and wives can agree mutually to have breaks from sex. I think out of love for your spouse you should strike a balance if people have differing sex drives.