*I’m a little angry right now with my sister. :mad: Let me explain, and vent, if you would?
First, I always try to go out of my way, to not insult someone, but if he/she asks my opinon, I give it. I don’t give unsolicited advice. My sister on the other hand…
So, I visited my sister recently. We had a great time, but she is VERY critical and judgemental. VERY. I listen, and don’t say anything, listen and don’t say anything…I’m reallly tired of it, frankly.
When we were together last weekend, we were talking about interracial marriages, and my daughter said that if she falls in love with an african-american man, so be it–she will not exclude someone based on race (I’m paraphrasing the words of a 13 yr old girl) My sister lost it…she said, sharon, you need to nip that in the bud! (this was a while later, when my dd was in another room) And on and on she went. I said, it’s really not a big deal, you know…why are you getting so angry? I never pegged you for a racist. :rolleyes: She didn’t like my comment.Then, we dropped it. And truthfully, I am not racist, and if my dd or son falls in love with someone who is not white, so be it…it’s their choice.
She says…‘well L (dd)…if you must marry one marry one like Obama.’ :eek:
I looked at her and said…uh no, she won’t be marrying someone like Obama. I was so angry!!! My dd didn’t know what to say. I was furious with my sister!! She thinks Obama is the greatest man in the world, so …again, another topic for another time.
Then, I slipped and fell when we were heading out to the beach–It was embarassing to say the least, and my dd ran over to tell my sister, who was already on the beach–she was like…what do you need a walker? You’re only 40 :whistle: I shouldn’t have laughed it off, but I did. I slipped, people fall sometimes…instead of being concerned, she gave me sarcasm, and a flip comment?
Then, she lamented during the trip, how she will end up being alone, and she can’t figure it out…she is attractive, independent, bla bla…hmmm…I thought…can’t imagine why?
THEN…and this was really upsetting, and I finally said something. We all went to church together …and as we walked out, I commented on how the number of men entering the seminary is going up…and that was a good thing, etc. She said, “oh, did they all get out of jail?’’ This not only made NO SENSE, but I took it as a slap at the Church. I said…‘what?’ She didn’t say anything, but I said, 'You know you just received the Eucharist, you should talk about your faith in a better light, considering you are Catholic, you know.” I had had it. She didn’t say anything.
THEN…fast forward to today…I wasn’t feeling well yesterday, so I sent her a quick email…‘hey, how are ya, I wasn’t feeling well yesterday, but not I’m fine, bla bla…’ Just small talk. She writes back how I should have TONS of energy, and I should go for a physical. That I don’t feel well often. :mad: Ok, this is not true, first of all–and second, I do have a lot of energy. I did not write back and don’t plan to. I’m tired of her rudeness. I don’t deserve it, and I’m tired of it. And I do get physicals and everything is fine. I’m fine, why she thinks I’m sick all of the time, who knows? I am done telling her when I am, though–this I know.
Believe it or not, I had a great time with her last weekend, and so did the kids. These are not constants, but they still happen nearly every time we speak. I really think she needs to change this, it is largely why her marriage didn’t work…it’s largely why men don’t stick around long with her. (meanwhile, she isn’t in a position to date, because she never received a declaration of nullity from her first marriage, but that’s another topic for another time) She talks disparagingly about her friends behind their backs, and then tells me in this same email today, how she’s going out with them for champagne. :rolleyes: Whatever.
Please pray that I don’t allow this to cause me to not speak to my sister for a while. Please tell me what you might do, in my shoes.