This does help. I love this.
Regarding the NO vs TLM, your words are similar to how Fr Josh Johnson answered the question awhile ago in his podcast, “Ask Fr Josh,” saying that since both are liturgically acceptable, either can be good for you and either can be bad for you depending on whether it’s lifting you up to God in love or leading you to pride.
For my own part, I began doubting my use of the NO with my kids, four of whom are teens and love the teen mass, as do I, when a very large group of our devout friends left the parish two years ago when an Ordinariate parish opened up close nearby. While I’m happy for them that they are enjoying the traditional, yet in English, form of the mass, my family will not be moving there for a number of reasons, first and foremost because our current parish priest has helped my wife and I through a very difficult time in the past few years and we feel we owe him a certain amount of loyalty.
At any rate, while I don’t get the sense from most of our friends who now attend the Ordinariate mass that they think they’re better than us, I have gotten that sense from time to time when I hear of some things the priest has said, such as, allegedly, that “this is the way the mass is supposed to be said.”
Whether or not that statement is accurate in any way, it makes me wonder, what IF the Novus Ordo in all its easing up has lost a certain dignity. What if, even though, as you said, @tommy37, it’s more about how we LOVE, not what type of mass we go to, what if we’re missing out on an abundance of graces that we would be receiving if we were giving God the proper respect that maybe we’d only know how to give if formed in the TLM?
I recognize that switching my teenagers to either the TLM or the Ordinariate cold turkey would certainly not miraculously put us all in a state of being able to give God due honor during a mass, especially if my kids (and wife) were spending the entire mass missing their usual.
But I guess these thoughts are just creating a recognition in me that we are so caught up as an entire people of God with the sins and errors of those around us, and those before us. We truly are paying the price, whether it’s missing out on some graces or otherwise being forced to deal with the consequences, of our parents’ sins three and four generations back.
Like the Israelites who all had to eat the dust of the golden calf, whether they were the instigators of its creation or simply bystanders who said nothing, we will all be chastised and blessed, in some way, due to the evil and the good that we engage in as a unified bride of Christ.