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lonegreywolf20
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This may be more of a rant than anything, and I am probably preaching to the choir to be honest. If you want to agree or add anything feel free.
I posted recently about my sixteen year old’s mom (ex-girlfriend from ten year relationship from before my marriage) giving me a hard time about coming up there to see her because of my daughter having seizures. I am going up there this week on Thursday with my girlfriend tagging along because I cannot make that trip alone and my kids up north want to meet her. So, I have recently had issues with my ex-girlfriend.
Now, I am having issues with my ex-wife. She has said that because I have my daughter for the school year, it is my responsibility to make sure that while I am away that she gets to school. Now mind you, my ex-wife has kept our daughter out of school more times than I have and most of the days have been because my daughter will wine to stay home and my ex-wife gives in. The two days out of eight that she has been missed this year when she has stayed home when I had her have been because she was sick. Three of the days with my ex-wife have been because of the whining.
I tried to find a way to make sure that my daughter goes to school for her kindergarten class, but there was nothing that I could come up with. My ex-wife will not make the trip to drop her off at school for the two days that she would miss. I got one day covered by my mom and step-dad, so that would have been three days that she missed. They cannot do the other two days because my step-dad will be at work and my mom only drives around her town and will not make the 45 minute trip as she is afraid to.
My feelings are that my ex-wife should step-up if she wants our daughter to go to school those two days. That this is a family emergency and I need to go up and see my daughter, so she should understand that and if the shoe were on the other foot I would do it for her. I have done it for her a couple of times now. I see my girlfriend and her ex-husband work out ways to make sure that their son is able to get back and forth, that when there is an emergency and there has been, the other steps up and helps out. This is what I thought my ex-wife and I had worked out during the divorce. I guess not.
Now, my plans are up in there air for going to see my daughter up north. I may have to wait till the summer, which doesn’t seem far off, but what if something happens between now and then? What if she has a seizure that she never wakes up from? I would never forgive myself! My ex-wife said to go up as planned, just leave on Sunday instead of Monday night or early Tuesday morning. That only gives me Saturday to spend with her and her siblings as it is a seventeen plus hour drive up. That is not an option and unfair of her to ask me to do that.
So, yes, be careful who you date and who you marry! I am grateful and thankful for the girlfriend that I have now. She is wonderful and I see how she does things with her ex-husband for the good of their son.
There have been other issues that I have been dealing with between the two of them. My mom, and step-dad say I am too nice to the both of them and that I need to stick up for myself more.
I posted recently about my sixteen year old’s mom (ex-girlfriend from ten year relationship from before my marriage) giving me a hard time about coming up there to see her because of my daughter having seizures. I am going up there this week on Thursday with my girlfriend tagging along because I cannot make that trip alone and my kids up north want to meet her. So, I have recently had issues with my ex-girlfriend.
Now, I am having issues with my ex-wife. She has said that because I have my daughter for the school year, it is my responsibility to make sure that while I am away that she gets to school. Now mind you, my ex-wife has kept our daughter out of school more times than I have and most of the days have been because my daughter will wine to stay home and my ex-wife gives in. The two days out of eight that she has been missed this year when she has stayed home when I had her have been because she was sick. Three of the days with my ex-wife have been because of the whining.
I tried to find a way to make sure that my daughter goes to school for her kindergarten class, but there was nothing that I could come up with. My ex-wife will not make the trip to drop her off at school for the two days that she would miss. I got one day covered by my mom and step-dad, so that would have been three days that she missed. They cannot do the other two days because my step-dad will be at work and my mom only drives around her town and will not make the 45 minute trip as she is afraid to.
My feelings are that my ex-wife should step-up if she wants our daughter to go to school those two days. That this is a family emergency and I need to go up and see my daughter, so she should understand that and if the shoe were on the other foot I would do it for her. I have done it for her a couple of times now. I see my girlfriend and her ex-husband work out ways to make sure that their son is able to get back and forth, that when there is an emergency and there has been, the other steps up and helps out. This is what I thought my ex-wife and I had worked out during the divorce. I guess not.
Now, my plans are up in there air for going to see my daughter up north. I may have to wait till the summer, which doesn’t seem far off, but what if something happens between now and then? What if she has a seizure that she never wakes up from? I would never forgive myself! My ex-wife said to go up as planned, just leave on Sunday instead of Monday night or early Tuesday morning. That only gives me Saturday to spend with her and her siblings as it is a seventeen plus hour drive up. That is not an option and unfair of her to ask me to do that.
So, yes, be careful who you date and who you marry! I am grateful and thankful for the girlfriend that I have now. She is wonderful and I see how she does things with her ex-husband for the good of their son.
There have been other issues that I have been dealing with between the two of them. My mom, and step-dad say I am too nice to the both of them and that I need to stick up for myself more.
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