There is a difference between girls doing “boy” activities and collecting "boy"objects, and girls actually acting like boys.
Perhaps some of you have never met women who act like men. Again, I’m not talking a woman like Danica Patrick who drives race cars. I’m talking about women who talk in a deep voice and have mens’ postures and mannerisms, who wear actual men’s slacks, shirts and shoes, cut their hair like a man, and askew being with women in order to sit spraddle-legged with the guys.
It makes the guys uncomfortable, too.
I find it disturbing and sad.
I think we have to be careful about being so kind-hearted and “Christian” that we deliberately ignore a physical or psychological abnormality.
We have seen boys in skating rinks who are not certain which sex they are. One little boy at age six wore makeup, long hair, and insisted on wearing dresses during practices and competitions. He acted just like a girl! If you saw him, you would think he was a girl. His parents were fine with his behavior.
Do you think that’s OK? Do you think that’s just being a “tomgirl” and that he should be encouraged to be “true to his self?” Do you think that all the skating parents and coaches were just being “homophobic” and mean-spirited?
I don’t, and neither did the rink. They insisted that he wear boys’ clothing. I believe he quit the sport.
There are people who are born with “mixed-up hormones,” who have the hormonal makeup of the opposite sex, but who have enough traits of a certain sex that the parents decide to raise that child as that sex. These children go through a lot of struggles and require a lot of help.
I personally think that this is the situation with this little girl, and instead of dealing with it compassionately and forth-rightly, the grandparents are ignoring it, and making it seem as though everyone else has to accept her just the way she is, and those who don’t are being bigoted, homophobic, or old-fashioned.
This, IMO, is sad. It is akin to saying that a child with a cleft palate has to endure a lifetime with a cleft palate because the caregivers don’t believe in surgery and insist that everyone just accept the cleft palate. Sad.
This little girl will grow up conflicted and tormented if she doesn’t get her gender-identity issues straightened out.
Obviously I could be totally wrong on this whole thing, and I admit that. It’s difficult to glean the truth when secular media is involved. Look at the way the media is reporting the meeting between Pres. Obama and Pope Francis. To hear the media tell it, Pope Francis validated everything Pres. Obama is doing.
Some of you have a lot of prejudice against “baptist fundamentalists and Protestants” and you assume the worst of these people. I think you need to be careful about this. I grew up Baptist and knew a lot of fundamentalists (and still know a lot them). For the most part, they are kind, loving people who go to great lengths to protect and care for children. Many of the fundamentalist Protestants reject contraception and have large families because they actually believe the Bible and take it seriously. Many fundamentalists have children’s schools, clubs and camps that attract children of all faiths, including many Catholics, because they are fun and child-appropriate.
I prefer to believe the best of the school, and I especially believe that we need to listen to CHILDREN when they say that they weren’t sure if the little one was a boy or a girl. I’m sure a lot of the girls in the school do “boy” things (hockey is huge right now among the home-schooled and Pentecostal school children in our city). But as I said, there is a big difference between doing “boy” activities, and acting like a boy.
