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I have a slighly embarrassing question: this always happens to me during mass and it’s difficult for me to ask anyone about it, but I become very emotional during certain parts of the mass, particularlly during the song of forgiveness: Lamb of God…you take away the sins of the world…have mercy on us. Prince of Peace: you take away the sins of the world…
***As hard as try and tell myself “I’ll be able to hold back”, the tears just start falling like someone turned on a facet:o …if I don’t have tissue I’m in trouble:eek: ***
Does anyone else have this happen??
Sometimes I feel Jesus is trying to tell me something! I’m not particularlly a over -emtional person, but at times I can be moved by somethings.
One thing that I have noticed when I walk into chruch…is a very wonderfull peace that comes over me…I love that feeling!
thanks fo all who read my post and resond,
Have a great day, God Bless!
Kayla
 
I have had a similar experience on a number of occastions. I like to consider it as the work of the Holy Spirit prying my heart open a bit more to the Glory of God and what He has done for us.
 
In no way should you feel embarrassed by this. To me, this is a perfect blessing and sign of grace that you are moved to such emotion during the mass, especially the “agnus dei.”

This is fantastic! Let it lead your spiritual journey, and let the emotion you feel deepen your love of Christ and your faith. Is it too late for you to possibly consider a vocation?! 😃
 
Kayla, this has happened to me many times! Unfortunately, I am a “loud weeper,” so I usually have to decide between unabashed bawling in public and the lesser evil of blowing my nose(seems to help stop the tears). I am always grateful when it happens, though, as I do feel more “in tune” with the meaning behind the Mass, and anything that helps me get closer to the Beatific Vision is fine by me!
 
Hi Kayla –

It’s nice to hear from a fellow “weeper!” I, too, have this happen to me quite frequently during mass, only for me it can happen at any time and I’m never quite ready for it. It will often happen during a song where the words really touch me, or during the consecration, and sometimes during the homily (we have an incredible pastor who preaches the truth!). I have just within the last five years really started to understand our beautiful Catholic faith and what is actually happening at each mass – a miracle! It still overwhelms me at times and sometimes I feel embarrased, but then I remember that I’d rather be crying because I’m so moved by my Lord, than sitting in the pew oblivious to what’s happening!

God bless all the weepers! :crying:
 
I’ve heard it called the “Gift of Tears”. A gift from the Holy Spirit :crying:
 
Kayla…Don’t be embarrassed. The same things happens to many people, including myself. It’s the Gift of Tears, and is OK…

**When we are at Mass, we are experiencing Heaven, and are so open to the Holy Spirit. That’s one of the things I love about it. **

It seems to me that someitmes, when I am worried, or upset over one thing or another, of just feeing harried, that soon after Mass begins I am glad to be there…That wonderful peace that passes understanding comes to soothe my heart. If tears do come, I take it as a sign of grace…I am especially succeptable to certain music…or certain words in songs…And, I am always moved by the Eucharistic Prayer.


 
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Jennifer123:
I’ve heard it called the “Gift of Tears”. A gift from the Holy Spirit :crying:
As did I. Although I try not to act upon it, I let it go. In some cases, I am able to hold it back. I also often ask, “Why is this happening?” or “Lord, what’s happening?” Sometimes, I rarely ask, “Do I deserve this? I’m a sinner!”
It usually happens to me when I pray in the car, listen to “Ave Maria” by Franz Schubert, pray in front of the Blessed Sacrament or at Mass.
 
You are so fortunate!

For me, it’s the prayer before receiving the Eucharist…“Lord, I am not worthy…” I hope this feeling never ends. My greatest hope is for all within the Church to experience the same thing. Can you imagine what the world would be like ?
 
I wouldn’t let this bother me at all.

I have only had this happen a few times and that was during Lent when I went for Stations of the Cross.
I managed to do fine almost all the way through till Jesus was nailed to the cross. It was at the point on, did I lose and start to weep. Nice steady stream of tears rolling down my face.
It seemed to come out nowhere too.

So no, you are not alone 🙂
 
**Thanks everyone for your wonderfull answers…I’m glad I now have a condition called “the gift of tears” I feel a whole lot better that I’m not alone and some of you out there have had the same thing happen … … I’ll just need to carry more klenex in my purse. 😉 **
This is so enlighting to find a great goup of people to share my most inner feeling of spirituality with and not feel out of place…thanks again all!
God Bless! Kayla
 
I’m a crier too. This started for me in college on the few occasions when I attended Mass. Especially when I heard the song, “Here I am, Lord.” It seemed that on those few days I did attend mass, they would sing that particular song.

I remember standing in between two friends and just crying my eyes out. Neither of them knew what was wrong, but at least they helped me not feel stupid…not as I would have had I been alone. I was never able to explain why I was crying but my female friend (of the 2) seem to intuitively understand, and I’ve always been grateful for that.

Anyway, sometimes as I’m walking up for communion I realize that I’m in the presence of Jesus, and I actually start to cry there…while praying, “God, please don’t let me lose it!”

It’s so nice to be here among other people with the same…uh…gift? But I can tell you that I would far rather cry and leave puddles of tears during mass than not be touched at all.

So here’s my question…if some of you happen to not be crying and notice that someone, say, next to you is in tears during the mass, how do you respond? Does it differ if you know the person or if they’re a stranger? Do you want to reach out to them or respect their need (maybe) for privacy?
 
It seems plenty of people have responded by saying that they too have wept like that during Mass…that’s truly an admirable thing, a “gift” as most of you have put it. But, I have a question…do any of you know when and how exactly this started? When did it begin have more meaning in your life, or have you had it since the beginning?

I ask because I, in a way, envy that feeling the “weepers” get during Mass. See, I’m the type that…well, I just stare off into space and end up paying very little attention to anything that’s going on. I’m ashamed to say it, but when I do pay attention…I’m still almost completely unmoved. I wish I had the experience most of you have when you go to mass, because I really don’t feel anything at all…not even when I take the Eucharist. So really, to all of you weepers…it’s not you who should be ashamed. It’s those of us who feel nothing who should, if anybody.
 
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Max:
It seems plenty of people have responded by saying that they too have wept like that during Mass…that’s truly an admirable thing, a “gift” as most of you have put it. But, I have a question…do any of you know when and how exactly this started? When did it begin have more meaning in your life, or have you had it since the beginning?

I ask because I, in a way, envy that feeling the “weepers” get during Mass. See, I’m the type that…well, I just stare off into space and end up paying very little attention to anything that’s going on. I’m ashamed to say it, but when I do pay attention…I’m still almost completely unmoved. I wish I had the experience most of you have when you go to mass, because I really don’t feel anything at all…not even when I take the Eucharist. So really, to all of you weepers…it’s not you who should be ashamed. It’s those of us who feel nothing who should, if anybody.
I don’t know if this is helpful to you or not, but I, for one, can assure you that I have a major issue of wandering attention during mass. Some days I really struggle, some days I’m just tired…some days I just cant’ seem to pay attention. It’s pretty sad when I can’t even remember what the readings were about!

Gift of tears or no gift, I’m always been a daydreamer and I still can’t seem to snap out of it. For myself, I think the tears are actually God’s way of getting my attention. I’m a pretty emotional person to begin with (dont’ tell anyone at work…I’m trying to maintain a front!), and if I’m actually allowing myself to feel something, I also pay more attention…and the words each carry more weight. I guess I don’t know how else to explain it.

My advice to you is to try to find some quiet time to spend in prayer, and honestly, just try to remember a moment in your life which really weighed heavily upon you. Whether joyful, mournful…etc. Sometimes I think we just need to rediscover things we’ve buried. Our society is really very anit-emotion…and I think that spiritually, in some ways, is heavily knitted to emotion.

I’m not sure if that made any sense at all to anyone, even me!
 
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But, I have a question…do any of you know when and how exactly this started? When did it begin have more meaning in your life, or have you had it since the beginning?
I was a fallen away Catholic for some years before I decided to return about two to two and a half years ago.
When I was looking for a parish to attend I stopped by one a few miles from my house. I walked in during the middle of the day, with no one around, and sat down. I was feeling very alone at that moment in my life and when I sat down in the pew I started to sob, almost uncontrolably because the Lord was speaking to me saying, “I’m hear. I’ve always been here.” All I could say to him was, “I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.” Sorry because I had been away from Him for so long yet He was always there for me even if I did ignore Him. :crying:
It was then I could feel His presence so strongly. Even when I was by myself and I thought about Him, I could still feel the Lord and I would start sobbing all over again because I could picture the hurt in Him when I was away. That broke me to the very core.
Thankfully I don’t cry at the drop of a hat like that anymore 🙂

Other times have been when I prayed the rosary. Always, always, always was it during the sorrowful mysteries. Sometimes it was hard as heck to even get through a mystery, let alone a Hail Mary, because there I was, weeping all over again because of the pain our Lord went through just for little ol’ us. :crying:
This too has lightened up some. 🙂

It has started to have more meaning now that I am more spiritually involved with the mass instead of just being there. The mass is a completely new experience for me now that I am praying on a daily basis.

Mine has tapered off some and now only seems to happen around Lent and Advent
 
kayla said:
I have a slighly embarrassing question: this always happens to me during mass and it’s difficult for me to ask anyone about it, but I become very emotional during certain parts of the mass, particularlly during the song of forgiveness: Lamb of God…you take away the sins of the world…have mercy on us. Prince of Peace: you take away the sins of the world…
***As hard as try and tell myself “I’ll be able to hold back”, the tears just start falling like someone turned on a facet:o …if I don’t have tissue I’m in trouble:eek: ***
Does anyone else have this happen??
Sometimes I feel Jesus is trying to tell me something! I’m not particularlly a over -emtional person, but at times I can be moved by somethings.
One thing that I have noticed when I walk into chruch…is a very wonderfull peace that comes over me…I love that feeling!
thanks fo all who read my post and resond,
Have a great day, God Bless!
Kayla

THANK GOD for this gift I have had it happen a few times, and am so thankful that he helped melt my hard heart, as long as it does not become a ddisruption to others let it continue. If you feel as though you may be causing others problems seek a spurturial advisor that is in line with Rome.

God Bless and thanks for giving me tears.
Scott
 
Hello to all weepers and dry-eyed distracted ones!

I’ve been a Catholic for most of my life (middle-aged) and have (or I should say “had”) never been moved to tears at Mass and always thought I was a pretty unemotional person. (Though on a couple of rare and precious occasions during prayer when I felt God had sort of seized me so strongly I wept out of a sense of pure and utter unworthiness) - a very rare experience, but I’ve never forgotten it.
However - I had been through a few years of feeling as if I was spiritually dead - no, not some lofty state like the Dark Night of the Soul, but sheer lukewarmness and as if sinking into the mire of secularity (I work all day in the company of people with no beliefs, but they are great people and good friends).
I went along to the Passion film on Ash Wednesday with the express desire of experiencing a much-needed wake-up call. I prayed for that - and got a lot more than I’d bargained for!
All during Lent I wept like a faucet - out walking, when praying at home, and at Mass. It was a really special Lent.
But … embarrasing!!!
I had to get someone to do my turn as lector during those weeks for me b/c I knew I’d never get through my assigned reading.
The tears have dried up, pretty much, but I’m so grateful for them, because I really wondered if I didn’t have a heart as far as God was concerned!!
(I do get emotional about suffering children, as seen on TV, and animals)
I think it’s entirely appropriate that we shed tears at times of prayer and closeness to God. Weep on!!!😉
 
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Max:
I ask because I, in a way, envy that feeling the “weepers” get during Mass. See, I’m the type that…well, I just stare off into space and end up paying very little attention to anything that’s going on. I’m ashamed to say it, but when I do pay attention…I’m still almost completely unmoved. I wish I had the experience most of you have when you go to mass, because I really don’t feel anything at all…not even when I take the Eucharist. So really, to all of you weepers…it’s not you who should be ashamed. It’s those of us who feel nothing who should, if anybody.
I too have had dry periods in my faith life, sounds like you are struggling with one now. I hope all here will pray for you. One thing that I like to do when I am distracted or unmoved during Mass - remembering it’s significance and approach it as prayer. All the prostration, the songs, the responses, try to do your best to offer it as prayer.
I’d recommend reading the book, The Lamb’s Supper by Scott Hahn, it may help you understand the significance of the sacrifice. But just persist in prayer, tell God about the dryness and your need for emotion. Open your heart to Him and have faith He will bless you. Pray the Rosary if/when you can and pour your heart to Mary. She wants you to encounter Him in every way!
 
Whoa! I thought I was the only one that got emotional. I’ve found myself being half-focused during Mass in order to keep the emotions away. I always figured I was being silly or unhealthy. But I can’t control the way I feel and the way it washes over me during Mass or even during prayers in private. I think it’s 100% normal and almost everyone feels that way but folks get so upset when they see you - or they treat you like you’re so holy. (Yeah right!)

One time after Mass a woman came up to me and was going on and on about how I inspired her and how she had watched me all during the Mass. That’s when I decided to get half-dead during Mass because I thought it wasn’t good to cause people to watch me instead of paying attention to the Mass. I mean, it’s all about God and not about how I look!!

It’s almost impossible to not cause a disruption at Mass. If you are the least bit caught up in the Mass then you get stared at. Folks then tell you to “chill out” because you are “being disruptive” or worse: showing off. So I no longer know what to do and I stay half-tuned during Mass. I’ve had to give up a lot of things in order to quit being told I’m being “disruptive.” I’m beginning to think the label “disruptive” is a catch-all word for “you are too happy at Mass.”
 
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