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Dadette
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Hello. This is very personal, but I’m going to just get to it.
I have suffered for a long while in my marriage with my husband who, I believe, has Erectile dysfunction. I do not know if he has damaged his penis from too much masturbation (He started using masturbation and pornography at a very young age daily) or if he has psychological problems “letting go”, but by vaginal stimulation alone, he can not ejaculate in me.
We can if we are able to try and try and try to stimulate him by other means and quickly, if timed right, finish licitly, (quickly getting into the licit position at the last second) but to be honest, it’s not fun, its work and it doesn’t feel natural.
What in the world would natural law say about Erectile dysfunction? Would the Church’s teachings say that no matter what, we have to finish licitly, even though it might take hours and hours (haven’t tried that
), or outside forms of stimulation (hands)? Or is his member or psychological state impaired and sex does not have to finish licitly through (what I would say) extraordinary means.
Is it okay after an hour/30mins/(pick a time) of male non-climaxed sex due to this issue, if we decide to stop?
This issue is painful, and I didn’t at all think that I would ever see myself dealing with this sad and strange issue- and one I can get little answers at all online.
Lastly, secular doctors, therapists, and clinics say to treat this form of E.D., you have to work for possibly months and the male masturbates in a separate room, eventually the woman is talking to him through an open door during the act, then next to him, until they get psychologically close enough he can ejaculate in her. Apparently, this is seen as a common way to treat this problem. Obviously, I will not agree to that. Masturbation is a sin, and I can’t get on board at all with any treatment like that at all. Another twist of the knife in this situation, I saw on websites pertaining to E.D., is it is common amongst Catholics, and the professionals believed it was due to guilt. What can I say to that? I think that this is not a problem studied and addressed much because I can not find the answers I need. The last question is if my husband’s member is damaged, whether by nerve damage or psychological conditions, does that in some ways, officially invalidate our marriage? [We have conceived by stimulation of hand and penetration in the last second.] Please forgive me if this sounds at all offensive, but I am looking for answers.
I have suffered for a long while in my marriage with my husband who, I believe, has Erectile dysfunction. I do not know if he has damaged his penis from too much masturbation (He started using masturbation and pornography at a very young age daily) or if he has psychological problems “letting go”, but by vaginal stimulation alone, he can not ejaculate in me.
We can if we are able to try and try and try to stimulate him by other means and quickly, if timed right, finish licitly, (quickly getting into the licit position at the last second) but to be honest, it’s not fun, its work and it doesn’t feel natural.
What in the world would natural law say about Erectile dysfunction? Would the Church’s teachings say that no matter what, we have to finish licitly, even though it might take hours and hours (haven’t tried that
), or outside forms of stimulation (hands)? Or is his member or psychological state impaired and sex does not have to finish licitly through (what I would say) extraordinary means.Is it okay after an hour/30mins/(pick a time) of male non-climaxed sex due to this issue, if we decide to stop?
This issue is painful, and I didn’t at all think that I would ever see myself dealing with this sad and strange issue- and one I can get little answers at all online.
Lastly, secular doctors, therapists, and clinics say to treat this form of E.D., you have to work for possibly months and the male masturbates in a separate room, eventually the woman is talking to him through an open door during the act, then next to him, until they get psychologically close enough he can ejaculate in her. Apparently, this is seen as a common way to treat this problem. Obviously, I will not agree to that. Masturbation is a sin, and I can’t get on board at all with any treatment like that at all. Another twist of the knife in this situation, I saw on websites pertaining to E.D., is it is common amongst Catholics, and the professionals believed it was due to guilt. What can I say to that? I think that this is not a problem studied and addressed much because I can not find the answers I need. The last question is if my husband’s member is damaged, whether by nerve damage or psychological conditions, does that in some ways, officially invalidate our marriage?
[We have conceived by stimulation of hand and penetration in the last second.] Please forgive me if this sounds at all offensive, but I am looking for answers.