Family dilemma with cohabitation

  • Thread starter Thread starter skookmark
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
S

skookmark

Guest
Hello all!

I have a situation involving one of my siblings, and was seeking the page here to see what words of wisdom and advise can assist me through this questionable time within my immediate family.

First, my sister moved into a house with her boyfriend with my parents consent, and claimed that it “made her safer.”

Second, I go to school in the same city that she lives in, and really wants me to visit when I’m back. However, I made the error of helping her move in and now she thinks that I am going to come over again.

Third, The majority of my family actually stayed OVERNIGHT at their place, which pretty much means to her that she is okay to do so.

Fourth, her boyfriend is divorced (not sure if annulled) and not sure that they will get married in the church.

And finally, I took advise from a priest, and he told me to tell her it was spiritual suicide. I never actually told her this, but I did try to let her know that it was wrong, but she thinks its okay with God. Plus I have bugged my parents about this, but they think its okay.

I don’t know how to approach this. I do know that The Lord warns us about having “enemies of our own household” Matthew 10:34-40. I have been doing a lot of prayer and penance, and I know that I have to be patient with The Lord and keep begging. But in the meantime, does anyone have any anecdotes that would help me in my current family dilemma?
Thank you, and God Bless.
 
You can certainly visit. But you dont ever have to stay overnight.
I wouldnt comment about it unless she brings it up.
 
I cannot help a lot, but on m’y sensé, if you want to tell her something, it seems better to said it with clear words one time for all, than to procrastinated ans find excuses to not go, or go and being visible angry…

I know it is hard. I am in a similar situation ans say nothing but m’y attitude show that i am not happy even if maybe nobody know why…
 
Last edited:
You have communicated to your sister that she is putting her soul in danger and that you don’t approve of her behavior.
If she chooses to continue on that path then you’ve done all you can. It’s no longer your problem.
If you don’t want to stay at her house then don’t. Tell her directly why you’re not staying there, in other words because you think her living arrangements are sinful and don’t want to be a part of that.
If the rest of the family chooses to do so, that’s their decision and again, not your problem.
 
Last edited:
Are you sure I could visit her if she would invite me to dinner or something of that sort? Because wouldn’t any appearance count as approval??
 
Whenever you eat dinner at anyone’s house are you approving of everything that happens there? I don’t think so.

It is fine to have dinner at your sister’s house. Remember, God gave you your sister for a purpose. Don’t look for reasons to put separation between the two of you.
 
Unless your sister and her guy are leaving the table mid-meal to disappear into the bedroom for hanky-panky, there is nothing wrong with eating a meal with your sister, or even with your sister and her guy both.

The reason you would not stay overnight is because you’re going to have to watch your sister disappear into the bedroom, presumably with her guy, and with hanky-panky probable. You’d be a party to sin then.
 
Last edited:
You can visit her and you could spend the night if you are so inclined. You are not the one living in sin. She is. I recommend living the holiness that God calls you to and with the grace of God her situation will sort itself out.
 
Jesus went to the homes of tax collectors (the most vile people in that society, kindof like going to dinner with a big Mob Boss or drug dealer). He ate with prostitutes.

I’m guessing that you are okay to visit your family, even if they are sinners. If I never ate with sinners, I’d never eat with anyone.
 
Thank you for the clarification. I was just confused because I told the priest that I happened to move her into the place. I realized later I was an accessory to sin, and confessed it. I was just confused with that whole premise. Thank you once again with the clarity. I knew that I would have to at least spend time with her at some point.
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top