Feeling trapped in life

[Omcc256]

Hi feel so trapped in my life. I live at home . looking for my own place. Not enough money get my own. I pray to god for help . I am confused and don’t what to do

 

[1ke]

Why do you feel trapped?

I think unless there is a serious reason to leave your family home— abuse, neglect, drugs, etc.— there is no reason to feel trapped. I moved back to my house after college and was happy that I wasn’t paying rent. I was able to save money to get a good start on a car and savings. Also I was a teacher so I made very little money.

There were growing pains negotiating being an adult living back at home.

But if your attitude is that you are lucky to have this opportunity to live with your family and have a positive outlook you won’t feel trapped.

 

[DarkLight]

On the other hand…I’d have sworn up and down for years that there wasn’t any serious reason to leave my family home, everything was great, and I had no idea why I felt so bad about it. So I sometimes take that with a grain of salt.

On a lighter note, @Omcc256, what sort of future are you looking for? I’ve also heard a lot of people say they feel trapped because the family home isn’t in an area that’s really conducive to getting them started on a career and adult life. Do you currently have a job that allows you to save up money?

 

[adamhovey1988]

First and foremost, please remember to capitalise “God”. Second of all, I know how you feel. And it’s not for lack of trying. Getting an interview at least, would be nice. I’m not too worried about living in my own place, people of my ancestral persuasion tend to live with their extended families much of their lives anyway. (Not to mention, my mother is having…problems, it’s probably better I am here). Keep praying, and keep looking for a job. I only quite my last one because I couldn’t get over having an illness.

 

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

Unless you’re not telling us something, you’re. not trapped.

You are, however, unsatisfied, which is normal when you’re at the age to launch and aren’t launching.

Place the situation in God’s hands.
Get a job.
Save money.
Establish a line of credit.
Move out.

 

[TheLittleLady]

I would add:

Learn how to do a budget.

Set up a bank account.

Learn to cook and to do laundry.

Take a Dave Ramsey course so you do not get into the credit trap.

 

[DarkLight]

@Omcc256 , I read a few of your other posts. It sounds like you’re really going through a very hard time, and don’t know what to do. If it’s possible, could you seek out a therapist to talk to? None of us can give you mental health advice, but I’d honestly recommend having someone screen you for depression or anxiety. It’s really easy to end up feeling trapped when your mental health is sapping all the energy you’d be using to move forward (been there, done that). And all that aside, it sounds like having someone who could provide some neutral feedback on your situation and what your options are could be very helpful. Sometimes if you’re used to things being a certain way it’s hard to realistically evaluate the options open to you, and people on the internet can have a hard time getting enough of the situation to be helpful (also been there, done that). And family can sometimes not understand that the job market isn’t what it was when they were young, or know what the options are if you’re not on the same path they were.

There are even some online options that could connect you to someone, if you can’t get there in person. I’m not too familiar with them but I understand some can be fairly cheap.

 

[Legend]

I also notice e that this person seldom answers their own original posts.

OP, we care about you, and understand that there may be reasons why you may not want to share many of your troubles, publicly. Please, see a professional. A priest, counselor, therapist. Maybe even a doctor, as your complaints may be covering physical problems.

Best wishes and God Bless!