Friend shared secret, I don’t know how to respond

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I do my best to protect mine and her identity with this so excuse the odd phrasing at times.

Someone really close to me, I’ve known them my whole life, who is a practicing Catholic came to me recently to talk about some things. They said that their nervous that they might have an STI. They’re going to the doctors and as of right now don’t know for sure yet what is actually going on down there. But this person shared with me that they have had sex before once and even though they’ve gone to confession it still very much is bothering them, especially now w the possible STI on the table.

I already made sure to convey that I was in no way judging them when we were talking and that I care about this person and our friendship deeply. I know that when someone goes to confession, Jesus chooses to forget our sins. But we hold onto them and that’s whats creating more stress and for them and their holding onto the pain of sin and bringing it into a new possible problem. It’s been months in between though and I’m no doctor but I feel like it makes sense that the two are unrelated?

I came on here though because I was hoping more some advice on what I should text back to this person. If you need anymore details or follow up questions I’ll answer them. Thanks
 
God doesn’t give someone an STI because of their sexual behavior (or misbehavior). STIs are possible biological consequences of having sex with an infected person. Luckily, we live in a time when STI’s (most) can be fully cured, and all can be managed. Encourage your friend to keep her appointment with her doctor. She should learn from the experience and move on. Holding on to guilt is of no value, and does a lot of harm. She should learn from the experience and do better in the future. That is what you should tell her.
 
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One can contract an STI through contact that many would find “making out”.

Your friend is wise to get to the doctor asap! Confess it and move on.
 
I couldn’t really understand…if she’s considering not having it treated, or denying it, out of guilt or embarrassment, that could be a disaster! Drive it home to her, if that is the case, that God loves her, will forgive/has forgiven her, once she goes to confession! There is no virtue in letting herself be sick , or even die. Tell her so, and, if possible, take her to the doctor’s office.

Wishing her (and you)the best God bless!
 
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