I hope your meeting went well. Some additional/follow-on things…ask to visit the community, and spend a bit more time with them. Accompany some of the religious on ministries, if you can, and try to get a feel for the community. Ask to talk with members currently in formation as well.
All religious orders are different. All communities within the same order are different. They have a “different feel” to them. An order may look good on paper, and the vocation director may be wonderful, but at the end of the day, you’re not going to be able to make an informed decision unless you get to know them. It’s like trying on a shoe. On paper you may be size 10, but a Chuck Taylor is not the same as a Chippewa…in fact even one style of New Balance running shoe will feel immensely different than another. You have to try the shoe on to know if it fits.
Going to a house for dinner is a start. Then maybe go again. Then spend a weekend. See how it feels.