Help NFP and Going “too far”

[313]

I need help…I know the Church’s stance is all sex must end in PIV but after abstaining from sex for over two weeks during my fertile period…it’s not easy for me to feel sexually inclined at all. In order for it to work, I need to stay intimate to some extent during the fertile phase! I know foreplay is allowed but what if I need foreplay DAYS ahead of time to stay close with husband? Is this wrong?

Edit: I’m looking for answers other than “read a book together” or “go for a walk”! I can never have sex when I want it and so by the time it’s allowed I’m disgusted and turned off and frustrated.

 

[DisorientingSneeze]

to stay close with husband

Explore nonsexual types of intimacy. There may be other things that help you feel close.

To everyone else who shows up in this thread, have we found any Catholic NFP specific forums to direct posters with very specific marital sex questions to? These types of questions can yield some pretty explicit conversations even if it doesn’t start that way. I wonder if there isn’t a NFP forum by now.

 

[313]

If I put it in the wrong spot, I apoligize! I spent awhile hunting for an nfp forum and couldn’t find one?

 

[DisorientingSneeze]

Oh I didn’t mean here. We don’t have one. I just wondered if anyone knew if there was another website that had something like that. Family life seems a relevant subforum.

 

[DisorientingSneeze]

I was thinking something more like this.
https://livingthesacrament.com

But I’ve never used it so I can’t vouch for it. You do have to register to even view the forums to protect peoples privacy and so that minors are less likely to view it.

 

[Hoosier-Daddy]

If NFP is affecting your marriage in such a way that you do not want to abstain. Then you could abandon NFP…

 

[TheLittleLady]

Ave Maria Radio Forums have a restricted NFP forum.

 

[Anicette]

I think you already know the answer…
Of course it is wrong to go too far if you don’t intend to do the things as they should be…