How to support a friend when her husband wants to leave her?

[FullOfThought]

I have a very good girlfriend whose husband won’t speak to, hug, kiss or even touvh her. They both work in the medical field and have structured their schedules so they are only home together 1day a week.

The reason the whole situation started was mainly because he is lazy and doesn’t help around the home EVER, and she is left to do everything, and also because she is extremely career driven and forthe last 5years has put herself and her career FAR ahead of their relationship. The reason I share those details is to show that the problems they face are not from only one of them.

I want to be there for her, but how do I go about this? I don’t want to support her wanting a divorce!! I do not think they need a divorce, I think they need to take time off work and focus on each other for a while… but neither of them are Catholic or very religious so they won’t go for spiritual help, and I don’t know if he will speak with a counciller.

Thanks for your advice.

 

[bkoz]

Have her read “Love Must Be Tough” by Dr. Dobson!

 

[Cath4life]

Another great read for troubled marriages is “Boundaries in Marriage” by Dr Henry Cloud & Dr John Townsend (Christians). Some libraries have their books and you can just borrow them and return. You can always talk about forgiveness and gratefulness for starters. Pride is the killer of most relationships. Our anger gets the better of us and we are clouded by it. One of them has to step up and decide the marriage is worth saving and work on forgiveness from both sides without taking an account. Another huge advice is to jot down all the positive virtues that the other person has and focus on their great qualities. We tend to forget about them, when relationships are difficult. It is hard to be grateful to the other person, when one is angry.

Blessings to you for helping this couple!!!

 

[SurlyMermaid]

I feel where your friend is coming from… oh, so very much.

The couple will be in my prayers. :hug1: