Husband Catholic/Wife Christian: Baptizing baby

[EvangelCatholic]

Now that I understand that “dedicated” does not mean baptism, I strongly urge the OP to do what is critically right for your baby and get your child baptized as soon as possible. The first sacrament of the Church is uniting our children to Christ. What parent would delay this most important sacramental entry into the Church? When there is a fear of infant mortality, laymen can baptize; that is how important Holy Baptism is.

 

[FreciaMarie]

Now that I understand that “dedicated” does not mean baptism, I strongly urge the OP to do what is critically right for your baby and get your child baptized as soon as possible. The first sacrament of the Church is uniting our children to Christ. What parent would delay this most important sacramental entry into the Church? When there is a fear of infant mortality, laymen can baptize; that is how important Holy Baptism is.

^Yes.

 

[robwar]

Unfortunately this should have been ALL nutted out before hand.
But that doesn’t help you much now. I have a daughter (Catholic) who was looking at marrying a non Catholic. I took her aside and discussed with her, just how important it was that they were both on the same page with religion. I wasn’t talking about converting the boy…but out of respect for the girl he loves…he should at least understand it. Her religion after all, was a large part of who she is and who he loves.

Conversely, she had already been to his church with him, in order to meet with his friends and finding out who he was. She was able to hear some off handed remarks about Catholics and always felt that something was missing during communion.

Both were under the impression that they were right and they each would be able to convert the other.

The relationship had reached a point where it had stalled at religion. I suggested that if there was any future in it, he must understand the Catholic religion and make an informed choice as to whether he could live with it and subsequent obligations. I was hoping that he would be able to recognize a truth, if he were to see it.

I made available to her the “Scott Hahn Conversion Story” for him to read.

I was confident that once we are given the truth…it becomes self evident and pretty hard to ignore it.

It is also truth…that nobody likes to admit they are wrong. When one reaches their own conclusions about a given subject, they are more likely to adopt it. Nobody likes to be told and nobody likes demands!

He has since completed the RCIA program and is now a Catholic. They are to be married this year.

The shepherd who guides his sheep, does so with gentle patience, less they are startled and scatter.

I hope that this may help you in your handling of such a delicate matter. Understand that to walk away from your Catholic faith is to walk from the midst of the TRUE presence of Christ. Truly and ever present in the Eucharist. He waits hour by hour…day by day for his children, in every Catholic church…in every tabernacle. When asked how long after mass does he wait before leaving…He replied, “It is you who leave me.”

yes, i absolutely agree with you, this should have been hashed out before hand. Unfortunately, there are too many threads like this with these sorts of problems where the real ideas, expectations and desires need to be worked out before hand or the relationship maybe put on hold or dropped till they work this out. On the other hand, there are likewise too many questions and threads from those thinking about marrying a non-Catholic and usually half of the Catholic respondents seem to be supportive of a decision to date or marry a non-Catholic as no big deal and it will all work out. It is rather depressing because those thinking about dating and marrying a non-Catholic need to read Op’s problems and issues on this thread. Now the deed is done and we need to pray for Op to be strong in his faith.

 

[steido01]

Now that I understand that “dedicated” does not mean baptism, I strongly urge the OP to do what is critically right for your baby and get your child baptized as soon as possible. The first sacrament of the Church is uniting our children to Christ. What parent would delay this most important sacramental entry into the Church? When there is a fear of infant mortality, laymen can baptize; that is how important Holy Baptism is.

Amen.

 

[Kliska]

It depends on the beliefs of the non-Catholic, I would imagine. For those of us that don’t believe in infant baptism, there are different takes on what a baptism would mean at that age. She may believe it is morally wrong to baptize, or she may believe it is getting the baby’s head wet. If it is the later, you two may agree to go ahead with it.

But, remember, if you do go ahead with it, she may not believe it is a valid baptism, and that the child will have to be baptized when grown to the point of consent. When that happens, what is going to your (Catholic) reaction to that? All of this needs to be discussed, and it is up to you guys to respect and love one another, and be loyal and obedient to the Lord, and that may mean some serious conversations.

 

[4Squarebaby]

It depends on the beliefs of the non-Catholic, I would imagine. For those of us that don’t believe in infant baptism, there are different takes on what a baptism would mean at that age. She may believe it is morally wrong to baptize, or she may believe it is getting the baby’s head wet. If it is the later, you two may agree to go ahead with it.
But, remember, if you do go ahead with it, she may not believe it is a valid baptism, and that the child will have to be baptized when grown to the point of consent. When that happens, what is going to your (Catholic) reaction to that? All of this needs to be discussed, and it is up to you guys to respect and love one another, and be loyal and obedient to the Lord, and that may mean some serious conversations.

plus going to the Catholic Church one day doesn’t mean there will be follow up Catholic Instruction, thus you may be making a false statement so that a priest will baptize the baby.