Husband left us for porn

[DaughterofPhilomena]

Hello. I’m new here. I need help…I’ve been married for 7 years and discovered my husbands porn right after honeymoon. I’ve been praying and sacrificing all these years. This last time he lied about not seeing it, HE said I had to trust him, otherwise there wouldn’t be a marriage anymore. He said that “the screen touch probably just typed it.” I refused to let it slide this time. So he took his ring off, announced to the world he’s separated, but still lives here at the house because of our kid. He also had the nerve to ask me for sex to “see if we could rebuild as boyfriend and girlfriend”. He talks to a lot of women on the cell phone and God knows what else. The .ast time we spoke, he said he would “accept MY efforts to fiz the marriage, but couldn’t give me any guarantees.”. Seriously???

 

[Dlee]

I’d say talk with your priest and see if he knows of a good counselor who deals with this. Once trust is broken, it is very difficult to repair, especially when you’re the only one who is trying to repair the trust. I know there are many books out there on the subject, but I don’t know which to recommend. I’ve had some experience with this with my now ex-husband; I couldn’t compete. I’ll pray for you.

 

[0Scarlett_nidiyilii]

I’m sorry.
I’ll remember you all in my prayers ray:t2:

 

[Retsel]

Porn is an insidious addiction of the mind that requires no chemical ingestion.
Little is known by the general public about PA because mass media owns and profits from it.

He needs to get into a porn anonymous.

 

[Mtatum1958]

I am saddened and very sorry for your situation. I will say a prayer for your marriage.

Unless and until he recognizes his actions as the problem that it is, I can’t see any meaningful change. For your spiritual health and guidance I would make an appointment to speak with your priest. Seeking out counseling could help in finding ways to draw him in to seeing his behavior as wrong and trying to act on change for the good of your marriage.

 

[TheLittleLady]

This group has been featured on Catholic Answers Live:

https://www.maritalhabits.com/

 

[Legend]

I think that the problem is not only not being resolved, but is escalating…why do you think he calls these women? Why does he act like he wants to ‘save’ your marriage, with you being the only one working on it???

He has no respect for you, or your child, or the family you’re trying to hold together. You should speak to your priest, and ask what your options are. This is a major problem…whatever your husband says to try and minimize it, if he won’t start working on it, if he doesn’t stop looking at porn, things will only get worse. Call your priest now, and make an appointment. You need to do what is best for yourself and your child.

 

[Asonglaw]

accept MY efforts

Courage in your efforts and prayers, for your home. I will pray for your family. Talk to a priest too. May the Lord GOD bless your family and guide you through the hard times. May the mother Mary with the hosts of angels and saints intercede for your marriage and family. In Jesus name Amen.

 

[bmaj]

I’m so very sorry to hear what you’re going through. As several others have suggested, for your sake and that of your child, please make an appointment to speak with a Priest. It sounds like your husband has no desire to change, and until that happens, just about anything and everything he says is pretty useless. I’ve experienced this in my marriage, and in the beginning there was a LOT of lying and placing of blame on me, unfortunately, for being “ridiculous…” I pray that our Blessed Mother and St. Monica help intercede for you to our dear Lord. May God bless you and your family always and give you strength each and every day.