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Have Jews ever or do they still pray to/ for the dead?
Kaddish is only recited for only 11 months of the 12 month mourning period. According to Jewish tradition, the soul must spend some time purifying itself before it can enter the World to Come. The maximum time required for purification is 12 months, for the most evil person. To recite Kaddish for 12 months would imply that the parent was the type who needed 12 months of purification! To avoid this implication, the Sages decreed that a son should recite Kaddish for only eleven months.
From the website of the Jackson Row Synagogue
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They don’t have anything like Catholic prayers for the dead. It is simply not how they view things. Kaddish is not primarily a prayer for the dead it is a prayer about the dead, by mourners, to God. This I know first hand. My father was a Jew and we prayed the Kaddish when he died as well as for many other relatives in my family, unfortunately. Further there is no Jewish prayers to or for the dead in a way similar to Catholic or Orthodox prayers to and for the dead. After the shiva (7 days of mourning) all such prayers are not said. The prayers of the mourning have a very specific time limit. You will not find a practicing Jew praying for a dead relative 5 years after their death, the concept is foreign to the Jewish ethos, an ethos I have experienced my entire life.Have Jews ever or do they still pray to/ for the dead?
Maddona is Catholic, Esther is the Kabbalists Jew,The only Jews that have any type of prayer to the dead are the mystical Kabbalists (like Madonna).
Mel
Would you expand on this since it seems to oppose the viewpoints of the other posts?Kaddish is not primarily a prayer for the dead it is a prayer about the dead, by mourners, to God.
In addition to the Kaddish. it is believed that the recitation of the Yizkor and E-l Maleh Rahamim prayers are beneficial to the soul of the departed. On the anniversary of the burial, it is common to study some chapter of the Talmud or the Tanakh (what we call what Christians call the “Old Testament”), read a selection of Psalms, give to charity, etc. in honor/memory of the departed. This is also believed to be beneficial.After the avelut [mourning] period is complete, the family of the deceased is not permitted to continue formal mourning; however, there are a few continuing acknowledgments of the decedent. Every year, on the anniversary of the death, family members observe the deceased’s Yahrzeit (Yiddish, lit. “anniversary”). On the Yahrzeit, sons recite Kaddish and take an aliyah (bless the Torah reading) in synagogue if possible, and all mourners light a candle in honor of the decedent that burns for 24 hours. In addition, during services on Yom Kippur, Shemini Atzeret, the last day of Passover, and Shavu’ot, after the haftarah reading in synagogue, close relatives recite the mourner’s prayer, Yizkor (“May He remember…”) in synagogue. Yahrzeit candles are also lit on those days.
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Kaddish
Kaddish is commonly known as a mourner’s prayer, but in fact, variations on the Kaddish prayer are routinely recited at many other times, and the prayer itself has nothing to do with death or mourning. The prayer begins “May His great Name grow exalted and sanctified in the world that He created as He willed. May He give reign to His kingship in your lifetimes and in your days …” and continues in much that vein. The real mourner’s prayer is E-l Maleh Rachamim, which is recited at grave sites and during funerals.
Why, then, is Kaddish recited by mourners?
After a great loss like the death of a parent, you might expect a person to lose faith in G-d, or to cry out against G-d’s injustice. Instead, Judaism requires a mourner to stand up every day, publicly (i.e., in front of a minyan, a quorum of 10 adult men), and reaffirm faith in G-d despite this loss. To do so inures to the merit of the deceased in the eyes of G-d, because the deceased must have been a very good parent to raise a child who could express such faith in the face of personal loss.
Then why is Kaddish recited for only 11 months, when the mourning period is 12 months? According to Jewish tradition, the soul must spend some time purifying itself before it can enter the World to Come. The maximum time required for purification is 12 months, for the most evil person. To recite Kaddish for 12 months would imply that the parent was the type who needed 12 months of purification! To avoid this implication, the Sages decreed that a son should recite Kaddish for only eleven months.
We pray for the dead but not to them. When we visit the tombs of holy men/women, we certainly don’t/shouldn’t pray to them. Rather, we pray to God and beseech Him to count the merit of the particular holy man/woman in our favor, we ask Him to remember us in their merit. When DW & I were plowing through fertility treatment way back, we prayed at Rachel’s Tomb (rachelstomb.org/main.html) & at Samuel’s Tomb; we certainly didn’t pray to Rachel our Mother or to Samuel.I believe with perfect faith that it is only proper to pray to G-d. One may not pray to anyone or anything else.
Interesting. Thanks for the info. Has this ever been different?We pray for the dead but not to them.
Once in a while we’re glad someone jumps ship.Madonna is a clown.
Just what I was looking for. Thanks again.Howzat?
You’re welcome!Thanks for the info.
Taking into account the fact that there’s always some difference between what believers (Jewish, Catholic, whatever) do and what their faith says/teaches, the answer is no. Traditional, normative (i.e. orthodox) Judaism has always taught that praying to anyone or anything other than God alone is wrong.Has this ever been different?
Ah, but the residents of Qumran (see tinyurl.com/6pgfu) were schismatic heretics whose views were not at all representative of normative Judaism at the time.But the evidence that we found at Qumran ppoints to the fact the practices in this book were acceptable for Jews outside of the Rabinnical establishment that was establishded after the temple was destroyed.
Hi SSV,Traditional, normative (i.e. orthodox) Judaism has always taught that praying to anyone or anything other than God alone is wrong.
Be well!
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Is it considered OK to ask others to pray for you while you are alive? Can you ask those who have already go on to pray on your behalf? Does the orthodox belief in an afterlife derive from Scripture? I've looked for it in the Hebrew bible, but it's unclear to me where this would be. Thank you.
Praying for others is considered a very good, noble & proper thing.Is it considered OK to ask others to pray for you while you are alive?
While praying to the deceased is a whopper of a no-no, it is a belief in (orthodox) Judaism that our Patriarchs & Matriarchs look out for us from their vantage point in the world-to-come (as we call it). Rachel our Mother is a very good example. Our Sages ask why Jacob our Father buried her in Bethlehem, a very short journey from the family tomb (the Tomb of the Patriarchs at the Machpelah Cave) in nearby Hebron. Our Sages say that Jacob saw that one day, his children (i.e. us) would be punished for our sins and exiled from our Land. He buried Rachel by the roadside that she might weep for us and beg God for mercy as we passed by en route to exile. See Jeremiah 31:15-17.Can you ask those who have already go on to pray on your behalf?
You also asked:Thus says the Lord: A voice is heard in Ramah, lamentation, and bitter weeping, Rachel weeping for her children; she refuses to be comforted for her children, because they are not. Thus says the Lord: Refrain your voice from weeping, and your eyes from tears; for your work shall be rewarded, says the Lord; and they shall come back from the land of the enemy. And there is hope for your future, says the Lord; and your children shall return to their own border."
Try jewfaq.org/olamhaba.htm#Biblical. There’s also the account of Saul & the witch of En-Dor (I drove past En-Dor once; it felt kinda creepy.) Samuel obviously came from somewhere & his soul was still in existence after his death.Does the orthodox belief in an afterlife derive from Scripture? I’ve looked for it in the Hebrew bible, but it’s unclear to me where this would be.
You’re welcome!Thank you.