Nana buying grandson South Park for Christmas?

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What is with parents and grandparents buying exactly what is on the children’s lists without first seeing whether or not it is suitable?

My MIL came over today so my husband could help her order DVDs for different family members for Christmas. She was reading the list to me and she is getting my 16 year old nephew South Park for Christmas:bigyikes: . because that is what his mother (my SIL) told her he wanted for Christmas.

This would never have gone down in my family growing up. I remember my Dad returning a gift from my grandfather because he felt it was inappropriate.

I think it is giving approval of this type of material. After all, if Nana gets it for him, what could be wrong with it?

I just want to know what is going on with some people that they do not seem to be holding any standards up anymore for what goes into the mind as well as the body.

What do you guys think?
 
You should respect your SIL’s choice to allow her son to recieve South Park as a gift, but you should let your MIL know what kind of content is in South Park shows, so she will know what she is giving to her grandson as a gift.
She might now be aware of what the show is like.
oops, respect is a bad choice of words.sorry
 
I personally would never buy it. It seems like around this time of year, for the last couple of years, the news has come out with stories like this. They mostly pertain to the video games that parents buy without checking the rating. 😦 I don’t understand why they would do something like that without checking first. Dh’s aunt had one of her sons take back an article of clothing because he felt it was inappropriate for his daughter to be wearing.
 
You should respect your SIL’s choice to allow her son to recieve South Park as a gift, but you should let your MIL know what kind of content is in South Park shows, so she will know what she is giving to her grandson as a gift.
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Well… I don’t have to respect her choice but she does have the free will to choose what her son gets for Christmas. I did tell my MIL that I would feel weird if I got such an inappropriate gift from my grandmother. However, I am already seen as the religious, cantankerous one so she was pretty dismissive of my comments and ordered it anyway. BTW, I’m not sure if my SIL is aware of the contents either.

The big problem I find is that the kids in my in-law’s families are allowed to have TVs in their rooms. So the kids request shows that the parents have never sat down and watched with them.

I don’t really feel like there is that much I can do about. As I said before most of comments are dismissed as being overly judgemental even when I try to say things as kind as possible.
So I am left just shaking my head and choosing to raise my own children differently.

As for video games, my son was over another SIL’s house and he told me about a video game in which the man and woman get into bed together. I think it is a SIMS game. The parts are blurred out but apparently it is obvious they aren’t wearing any clothes. And again, the TV is in the kid’s room. These are both good arguments for never having any media in a child’s room as they do not yet have the judgement to know what is healthy for them to watch or take in and will watch just about anything that comes on.
 
In my opinion South Park is appropriate for a 16 year old. If the child was 12, that would probably be too young, but at 16 I think he can handle South Park in a responsible manner.
 
I can certainly sympathize with you.
I am a Catholic convert and my family (parents, sister and her fiance, grandparents etc ) aren’t religious at all.
Hubby and I just had our first baby who happens to be the first on my side of the family too. (Hubby has lots of nieces and nephews on his side).
I can already see problems in the future of my extended family not understanding the way we wish to raise our daughter. We will be the odd ones out. But we are going to have to stick up for ourselves and protect our daughter. I know my family will take things personally… that’s just how it’s going to be. But it’s going to be tough.
I say raise your kids how you wish and let others do the same. I know it’s tough to watch your nieces/nephews being raised in a way that seems wrong, but you can influence their lives in other ways and hopefully make a difference. That’s what I’m going to try to do when/if my sis has kids.
Malia
 
ABsitively said:
What is with parents and grandparents buying exactly what is on the children’s lists without first seeing whether or not it is suitable?

My MIL came over today so my husband could help her order DVDs for different family members for Christmas. She was reading the list to me and she is getting my 16 year old nephew South Park for Christmas:bigyikes: . because that is what his mother (my SIL) told her he wanted for Christmas.

This would never have gone down in my family growing up. I remember my Dad returning a gift from my grandfather because he felt it was inappropriate.

I think it is giving approval of this type of material. After all, if Nana gets it for him, what could be wrong with it?

I just want to know what is going on with some people that they do not seem to be holding any standards up anymore for what goes into the mind as well as the body.

What do you guys think?
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oh nooooo! NOT SOUTHPARK…bleck. I hate that show…and think it’s not good for teenagers, really. I don’t see anything wrong with telling her, frankly…‘I know he wants it, but I’d appreciate it if you didn’t get that for him, really.’ Or choose your own words…but, I have no problem telling various family members who want to buy offcolor things for my kids…that I’d rather they don’t. There’s never any hard feelings over it…

My husband likes SP, and sometimes, I’ll walk in from the store or something, to see my 14 yr old son watching it, and then click…it goes off. I mean, must I referee this? I told my husband that it’s not a good idea to allow our son or daughter to view that show, and he agreed…and since then, it hasn’t been on the set since. My problem with that show is the deviant way they consistently mock Christians…
 
Mac6yver said:
In my opinion South Park is appropriate for a 16 year old. If the child was 12, that would probably be too young, but at 16 I think he can handle South Park in a responsible manner.
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eh…maybe yes…maybe no. they are still sponges, and if they pick up negativitiy on religion, and it’s condoned in the house…then, they pick up that knocking Christians is ‘cool,’ and acceptable…I dunno, that’s just my take on it.🙂
 
ABsitively said:
What is with parents and grandparents buying exactly what is on the children’s lists without first seeing whether or not it is suitable?

My MIL came over today so my husband could help her order DVDs for different family members for Christmas. She was reading the list to me and she is getting my 16 year old nephew South Park for Christmas:bigyikes: . because that is what his mother (my SIL) told her he wanted for Christmas.

This would never have gone down in my family growing up. I remember my Dad returning a gift from my grandfather because he felt it was inappropriate.

I think it is giving approval of this type of material. After all, if Nana gets it for him, what could be wrong with it?

I just want to know what is going on with some people that they do not seem to be holding any standards up anymore for what goes into the mind as well as the body.

What do you guys think?
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Not your Kids, not your decision. I gave my adult daughter South park three years ago.
 
We ALL watch South Park (DH, me, 15, 13 and soon to be 12) on TV.

It’s funny.

Our kids are getting the latest season of “Family Guy” for Christmas.
 
Pardon me for my ignorance here…is South Park the cartoon show that has absolutely horrible foul language? I turned it on one time to see what it was about. I kid you not, I had to turn the channel in under 3 minutes because I could not handle the bad language. Is this really something that’s funny or appropriate for teens? Adults…I guess you can make your own decisions, but why fill a teen’s head with such things?
Sorry. I could be wrong about the show, but I don’t think I am.

Anyway, I think to provide information to Nana about the show’s content is fine. If, after she knows about it, still decides to give it as a gift…there’s nothing you can do. At least you provided the info. I know a lot of older people who simply have no clue as to what is appropriate or not.

J
 
I think you are correct that the real problem is the TVs, game stations, etc in the bedrooms. The parents often have no REAL idea what the kids are watching. Your SIL probably knows all about South Park and just thinks it’s funny. I agree with you that it is trash.
My sil is similar with what she allows her kids. The difference being that she’ll talk about not wanting them to watch/do certain things but caves every time to their whining. Or to her hubby watching stuff that then the kids end up seeing too.
It is hard to be “counter-cultural” about this sort of thing. And it starts when they are young. At 16 (or even 12) it is a lot harder to suddenly start monitoring and denying them things.
I will pray for you and for your sil’s family. Hopefully your husband backs you up with his mother when yuo say NO to certain things for your own children.
 
An article about Southpark.
smh.com.au/news/world/imagine-south-park-offends/2006/02/22/1140563850793.html

I understand the humor in satire, but this show really goes overboard, not just for Catholics, for so many people and groups. As far as being dangerous, I don’t know. I do think, however, that a big problem today is the lack of compassion for other people’s feelings. A sixteen year old is still very impressionable, and a gift from his grandmother that encourages humor at the expense of other people’s feelings doesn’t seem like a good idea to me.
 
OP - I agree with you. My dh and I didn’t get anything on our nephews list this year because it was all a little questionable. We got him something that we hope he likes, but not on his list.

Personally, I’m not only not going to spend my money on stuff that adds to the moral decay, but I’m not going to be responsible for exposing him to more of that questionable stuff than he already has been.

His parents can raise their kids how they want, but that doesn’t mean we have to contribute in a way that we wouldn’t for our own dc.
 
Lovemyfaith said:
A sixteen year old is still very impressionable, and a gift from his grandmother that encourages humor at the expense of other people’s feelings doesn’t seem like a good idea to me.
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This is exactly my point! Yes, I know there is nothing I can DO about it per se but I think it is important that I spoke up and though she still decided to get it for him , maybe just maybe she will look into what she is buying next time.

I have had too many instances where I have regretted NOT speaking up to be ashamed of speaking up for my nephew’s moral sensibilities (even though he himself might not appreciate this;) ). I already know how my MIL views me so my having spoken up can’t have made things worse.
 
Catholic90 said:
We ALL watch South Park (DH, me, 15, 13 and soon to be 12) on TV.

It’s funny.

Our kids are getting the latest season of “Family Guy” for Christmas.
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You’re comfortable sitting there with your kids while these kids who are supposed to be in third grade use the most foul language and often make jokes about one of the characters mother being a whore?

Here’s a lovely example of an episode
The episode was aired on December 7, 2005, which is the eve of the Feast of the Immaculate Conception, a Catholic observance related specifically to the Virgin Mary. The Catholic League for Religious and Civil Rights condemned this episode for its treatment of the Virgin Mary…

Randy, who Stan describes as a “hypochondriac,” then begins to, ironically, drink more, since he has decided that he is in fact powerless to control it and cannot stop. Around this time, a statue of the Virgin Mary begins to bleed – out of her anus – and people begin to flock around it to find a cure for their diseases. Randy believes it can heal him of his disease…The new Pope Benedict XVI comes to investigate, and discovers that the blood is not actually coming from the statue’s anus – but her vagina. Since “chicks bleed out their vaginas all the time,” this is no miracle, and Randy, realizing this, suddenly realizes God did not heal him.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bloody_Mary_(South_Park)
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Catholic90 said:
We ALL watch South Park (DH, me, 15, 13 and soon to be 12) on TV.

It’s funny.

Our kids are getting the latest season of “Family Guy” for Christmas.
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I see from your public profile you are a teacher in a Catholic school? May I ask how old you are and what you teach?

I’m just totally surprised at your acceptance of SP being a parent AND a teacher at a Catholic school.

No obligation to reply, of course!

God bless,
Debbie
 
rayne89 said:
You’re comfortable sitting there with your kids while these kids who are supposed to be in third grade use the most foul language and often make jokes about one of the characters mother being a whore?

Here’s a lovely example of an episode
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rayne,

that is absolutely horrifying. I’m speechless. I simply can not believe anyone would watch this garbage; let alone allow their teenaged and younger kids to watch it. :nope:
 
rayne89 said:
You’re comfortable sitting there with your kids while these kids who are supposed to be in third grade use the most foul language and often make jokes about one of the characters mother being a whore?

Here’s a lovely example of an episode
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:bigyikes: How awful…I’m speechless.
 
I think South Park can be terrible at times but it did teach me all I need to know about the Mormans. I think they nailed that one.
 
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