Need advice on sterilization issue

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I am a divorced mother of two girls. I am very interested in getting married again now that I am a Catholic and want to preserve my children’s way of life. I was divorced because my ex hub was not faithful to me(and not just once but twice). He also abused me. I am unsure if I can be married again. I was married by a baptist priest in a wedding store. Before I was divorced, he wanted me to get a experimental operation to not have anymore children. I was 24 years old! Of course, I accepted this unknowingly of the consciquinces. This procedure is called STOP COIL by Conceptus. It’s this little coil that they insert into the fallopian tubes and it creates scar tissue, which in turn obstructs sperm from conception with the egg. Anyway, ITS PERMANANT!!! I dont know what to do. I want it reversed but I dont have any money. I am in love with this wonderful CATHOLIC man who treats me with respect and dignity. We are wanting to get married in about 3 years. We want more children. I know this is a lot of questions but I am desperate. I want God’s true love more than anything. I want this metal out of me. I am looking for the one doctor who can reverse this so I can be the Catholic woman I really want to be.
Proverbs 31
 
Nikki,
I’m sorry to hear of your difficulties.
You should speak to a priest about an annulment. It sounds like you have grounds.
The only information I can find on the STOP product says that while other procedures can be reversed, this cannot. As you know, it uses scar tissue to block the tubes. A specialist might be able to excise the affected part of the tubes, but you’d still end up with scar tissue. However, you could discuss it with your doctor and see if there’s any possibility of reversal.
Even if you can’t have more children, keep in mind that you could be open to foster care or adoption. Somebody has to love those children who desperately need homes. You want to be sure and discuss all these issues with your fiance.
 
May the Peace of Christ be with you at this difficult time!

It sounds to me like you have the grounds necessary for an annullment, which the Church will require before you are married. Luckily, since you are not going to be married for 3 years you should have plenty of time to obtain one. I’m sorry to hear of your sterilization experience, but remember that God forgives especially those sins done in ignorance. Try to find a way to reverse it, but if it is truly impossible, forgive yourself and trust in God. There are those who are born sterile and God finds other ways to bless them abundantly. Trust that He will do the same for you. I would also like to voice my support for the suggestion to pursue adoption or foster care.
 
I would like to thank those who responded to my questions. I have in the past talked to a priest about my marriage being anulled. I was married by a minister (Baptist I think or maybe someone ordained to do marriage ceremonies) in a wedding store chapel. So, my marriage is pretty much null according to this priest. I guess I just had 2 kids out of wedlock which is just as bad as being divorced. Sorry for being sarcastic. It is so frustrating to go through all of this and finding out you were so wrong about many things even though you thought different. But by the grace of GOD, I know now. Amazing grace should be my name…hehe. I just find it so difficult sometimes…so please keep me in your prayers. Thank you.
 
ccli.org/

The above web site has information for those seeking reversal operations I think.

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Therese
 
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