Oh oh I don't think I'll get to marry my soulmate?

[Bookenz]

After 45 years exactly 15 months ago I finally met a girl my age, tall like me, accountant like myself, wise like me, holy, frugal, fun, if I was an average member of society today I would be saying what the hell this is as close to the one as it has ever been before let’s do it and finally get married so we can deal with that issue of immortality once and for all but then you suddenly remember that she divorced (civil) her husband BC of his emerging madness and infidelity, she’s prochoice because, she had 5 close call miscarriages where she suffered rejection of the fetus which was endangering her life, AND therefore she doesn’t want to judge anyone and the possibility of getting her marriage annulled even though she was dragged into it when she was only 23 seems slim even if I can change her mind on abortion…aye…aye…I think my head is spinning…
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In the end isn’t all this bs stupid nonsense? I mean didn’t Jesus teach us to love one another as you love yourself? I know he said some words and put the bar high. But of course he had to for we all fall so dismally short. Does not the bible also say " Everything is permissible, though not always beneficial". I believe the 10 Commandments was written so we would have GOD template for achieving righteousness. So technically you’ve broken the commandment according to the strictist interpretation available. Does not LOVE cover a multitude of sins. And didn’t Jesus say I do not desire sacrifice but mercy.

Oksana can’t go back 5 years into her life to save a mad man she never truly loved, the past is dead now. And I didn’t break up any marriage I simply went on a date with a girl who is still here after 15 minths. She’s going to marry someone else anyway eventually so I should be able to step into their place being such a close fit and all…wouldn’t you say???

 

[GiftofMercy]

let’s do it and finally get married so we can deal with that issue of immortality once and for all

We are not immortal. We are eternal. Regardless of our state in life, we are eternal. God gave us eternal status. No-one can take it away.

Perhaps you should both speak to your Priest. Are you practising Catholics? I know you said she is pro-choice, but still, go speak together with a Priest. It might benefit her to, in seperating the loss of her babies with abortion. She must have some grief over 5 losses.

 

[TheLittleLady]

First of all “soulmates” is not a Catholic belief.

Our soul belongs to God.

Second, regardless of romance, your friend needs healing. Please, locate the miscarriage and infant loss group through your Diocese or Catholic hospital.

For discerning marriage, only date people who are free to marry (but that horse is already run from the barn). The next step is to meet with your priest.

Begin the process to have the validity of her prior marriage examined by the Tribunal.

 

[Bookenz]

Sorry immortality should read immorality. Yes sorry for the confusion

 

[Bookenz]

Short and sweet. I value your response. Thankyou TheLittleLady

 

[Legend]

This woman is not your ‘soulmate’. She has gone through many things, that would cloud her judgment. A disastrous marriages, five miscarriages…her own mental and physical health must be worked on, before she can even think of marrying again.

It sounds as if you have been lonely for a long time. IMO, at this time, You should be concentrating harder on friendships than on marriage.

You and she both have a lot to work through. Of course, pray for each other. But you may not end up together. Still, you can be very helpful friends to each other. I’m sure you can see that her ‘pro-choice’ stance stems more from her marriage and health issues than from her attitude toward life in general, and, I’m sure she understands your loneliness.

So, thank God for bringing you such a friend, and the best to both of you, in the future!

 

[Mi_Rose]

Talk to a priest alonw or together. You seem so confused. A good priest can help you sort things out.

 

[Bookenz]

Praise God Legend you have given me hope. Thankyou for your visionary-like perspective. I may not marry this person but even better I can be a source of light for her.

God bless