Pre-marital relations over 8 years ago

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If someone hasn’t been to confession in 15-20 years and never confessed about pre-marital relations, was there a time when we were married, in the church, that the sin was “confessed”? Has that person been in mortal sin this whole time? Even if they have been faithful to all other church teachings?
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I’m afraid I can’t answer your question…but it raises an intriguing issue: if one undertakes a sacrament while in a state of mortal sin, i.e. marriage, would the sinful state of the participant’s soul preclude receiving the sacrament and thus render the marriage invalid?
 
Island Oak:
I’m afraid I can’t answer your question…but it raises an intriguing issue: if one undertakes a sacrament while in a state of mortal sin, i.e. marriage, would the sinful state of the participant’s soul preclude receiving the sacrament and thus render the marriage invalid?
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If so, countless Catholic marriages are invalid. 😦
 
If someone hasn’t been to confession in 15-20 years and never confessed about pre-marital relations, was there a time when we were married, in the church, that the sin was “confessed”? Has that person been in mortal sin this whole time? Even if they have been faithful to all other church teachings?
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In a nutshell, yes, an unconfessed mortal sin places you in mortal sin regardless of being "faithful"in other counts. However, your question is a little too vague. Did they purposefully not confess fornication, or did they forget or etc. etc…
if one undertakes a sacrament while in a state of mortal sin, i.e. marriage, would the sinful state of the participant’s soul preclude receiving the sacrament and thus render the marriage invalid?
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Nope, isn’t invalid but they do not receive the grace of the sacrament until they go to Confession.
 
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bethyy:
If someone hasn’t been to confession in 15-20 years and never confessed about pre-marital relations, was there a time when we were married, in the church, that the sin was “confessed”? Has that person been in mortal sin this whole time? Even if they have been faithful to all other church teachings?
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If the person went to confession after having pre-marital relations and forgot to confess it then the sin of it would have been forgiven as long as the person felt contrition for it. If this sin was intentionally witheld then it would not have been forgiven.Now sometimes we do forget to confess things. I tend to go completely blank in the confessional. I have to write notes sometimes. My confessor told me truly forgotten sins are forgiven but it is good for me and my spiritual life to confess them at my next confession.
 
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Seatuck:
If the person went to confession after having pre-marital relations and forgot to confess it then the sin of it would have been forgiven as long as the person felt contrition for it. If this sin was intentionally witheld then it would not have been forgiven.Now sometimes we do forget to confess things. I tend to go completely blank in the confessional. I have to write notes sometimes. My confessor told me truly forgotten sins are forgiven but it is good for me and my spiritual life to confess them at my next confession.
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That is Confession 101.

When I responded to this thread, I was thinking of a cohabitating couple who get out of the same bed on the morning of the wedding (to be very explicit). Even not so explicit, is the couple who spent Thursday night together and were married Saturday afternoon. In both cases, there was not a trip to the confessional or a chat with the priest regarding past sin.
 
I’ve seen a wedding where the priest gave reconciliation to the bride and groom immediately before the ceremony. I think it was a good thing.
 
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LeahInancsi:
That is Confession 101.

When I responded to this thread, I was thinking of a cohabitating couple who get out of the same bed on the morning of the wedding (to be very explicit). Even not so explicit, is the couple who spent Thursday night together and were married Saturday afternoon. In both cases, there was not a trip to the confessional or a chat with the priest regarding past sin.
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Forgive me I was responding to the original thread poster.
 
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oldfogey:
I’ve seen a wedding where the priest gave reconciliation to the bride and groom immediately before the ceremony. I think it was a good thing.
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I think that’s an awesome thing . One of the big regrets of my life is not going to confession before my wedding. The priest never suggested it. I was a non practicing Catholic so I never thought of it myself nor did anyone else who knew me. I think it would have made a difference.
 
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oldfogey:
I’ve seen a wedding where the priest gave reconciliation to the bride and groom immediately before the ceremony. I think it was a good thing.
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Excellent idea. 👍
 
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LeahInancsi:
My opinion is free of charge. 😃
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Several of the Priests I’ve know will not marry a cohabitating couple. They tell them they have to separate prior to the wedding. Even if it means sleeping on someone’s couch.
So part of the problem is our Priests and our marriage preparations. Several friends have sat through Pre-Cana groups where they were the only not sexually active or cohabitating couple. Nothing was done or said.I do believe these couples were let down by the counselors and the Priests.
 
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