Relationship of the past

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Is it right to think about my ex boyfriend after I have moved on?? He says that he realises his mistake and doesn’t wanna leave me.But I’ve already moved on away from him long back and ready to be engaged to another guy. But He says it’s still God’s plan that we should be married. He makes me get confused.
 
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But He says it’s still God’s plan that we should be married. He makes me get confused.
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God’s plans are not that explicit. If you are called to marriage, there are many good and faithful men who will treat you with respect. You free to choose any eligible man to fulfill your vocation!
 
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Is it right to think about my ex boyfriend after I have moved on?? He says that he realises his mistake and doesn’t wanna leave me.But I’ve already moved on away from him long back and ready to be engaged to another guy. But He says it’s still God’s plan that we should be married. He makes me get confused.
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Two words: restraining order.

Was the reason you broke up with him was that he was possessive and manipulative?
 
Yes kind off. He wanted me to follow his way of spiritual living . He was so adamant and stubborn on that and that was the reason I moved on from him. He says he is realising that was wrong. I’m not still ready to believe that he has changed.
 
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You’re “ready to be engaged” to someone else? If you’re already contemplating marriage–a lifelong commitment–with someone else, then you’ve decided that there is no one else you want to marry. Does your intended fiance know about your ex? Does your ex know you are planning to marry someone else?

If you truly love your intended fiance and truly intend to marry him, then there should be no question about any ex coming into the picture. Whether your ex really does change or not is irrelevant.
 
Yes my fiance knows about my past…and my ex knows I moved on and ready for another life. He still thinks I would move back to him.However I’m very clear I’m not interested n going back to my ex now…👍
 
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Yes kind off. He wanted me to follow his way of spiritual living . He was so adamant and stubborn on that and that was the reason I moved on from him. He says he is realising that was wrong. I’m not still ready to believe that he has changed.
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Well, in fairness to your ex-, if you guys are young, then people certainly can recognized the error of their ways and change. Some of the responses here aren’t very charitable. You are the only one who can determine if genuine change, for genuine purpose has occurred.

That doesn’t mean you should get back together with him, though. Perhaps you are in a new season. If that is the case, then look ahead, and not behind.

If you are engaged to someone else, but posting here about this, maybe you aren’t really ready to be engaged. Don’t go jumping from the frying pan into the fire. Maybe some time with no relationship is your best bet.

If you are committed to your current fiance, he deserves to know you are not thinking about your ex. In his shoes, I wouldn’t stay engaged unless you cut off your ex. But that is just me.
 
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But He says it’s still God’s plan that we should be married. He makes me get confused.
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God does not micromanage our lives this way, it sounds as if this man has some control issues. I would block him and not communicate any more, pray for him.
 
Women who think they can change a man, or that they will change once married, are often wrong. Be careful. As a man I would suggest you move on.
 
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