Single Family Life Fitting In?

[sadowa]

I have a friendship that may best be served by sending her on her way. At twenty four she is half my age although quite bright, but the age differences are there. I question “singleness?”

I noticed as I explore options that I do not want nor maintain a general sense of “find somone else.”

A couple of years ago I noticed things in the parish I was in seemed oriented to families. I received social invitations that were presumptious about my state as a “lonely” person.My question is is there a preference for the married over the single life? Is there scripture on this?

I attend Mass at a monastery and there is no "Sense of Parish."to worry about. This has as much to do with when and where I work at present so feeling unease at my place in a parish does not even matter as I never want to go to a parish Mass again.

 

[I_A]

Actually its the other way around,
1 Cor 7 7-8:

I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am…

17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. 18Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised. 19Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God’s commands is what counts. 20Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him. 21Were you a slave when you were called? Don’t let it trouble you—although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22For he who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord’s freedman; similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ’s slave. 23You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men. 24Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to.

25Now about virgins: I have no command from the Lord, but I give a judgment as one who by the Lord’s mercy is trustworthy. 26Because of the present crisis, I think that it is good for you to remain as you are. 27Are you married? Do not seek a divorce. Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife. 28But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

29What I mean, brothers, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they had none; 30those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep; 31those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.

32I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. 33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— 34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. 35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.

 

[The_Vatican_Two]

We all have a vocation… some to married life, others to holy orders, others to single life… none are ‘preferred’ over the other. All are equally valid vocations.

A couple of years ago I noticed things in the parish I was in seemed oriented to families. I received social invitations that were presumptious about my state as a “lonely” person.My question is is there a preference for the married over the single life? Is there scripture on this?