you can’t take any action, it is a physical problem with a physical solution, and she has to embrace the entire treatment program that we diabetics need. you can’t do it for her, you can’t force her to do it. you can help by making proper diet, exercise etc. priorities for the whole family and making sure you and the kids cooperate with any changes, and don’t put roadblocks in her way.
diabetes is a disease involving hormones, and one hormonal imbalance effects all hormone systems in the body, and until the sugar/insulin thing is regulated, the rest of her body will be out of whack too, thryroid, adrenals, and sex hormones included.