Women-would you go to a male Gynaecologist?

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I’m having some female health issues and I’m needing to see a Gynaecologist but I’ve noticed that quite a few of them are men.
I’m sure that many are respectable genuine people but I can’t help feeling that some of them are potentially pervs who chose the field for ulterior reasons and news articles like the below don’t do much to convince me otherwise.

https://www.northernstar.com.au/news/gynecologist-accused-of-sex-assault-to-face-court/3398224/


Would you see a male Gynaecologist if the wait time was shorter and what is your opinion of males being Gynaecologists altogether please?
 
My wife sees a Male obgyn for all seven pregnancies. We fully trust him with her life. We wouldn’t want anyone else. To be Frank, most doctors have historically been men. So limiting your pool of medical professionals down to just one sex is silly, as is your classification of “pervs” it also isn’t sustainable as the medical industry is about as taxed for doctors as the Church is priests. If it makes you feel better there aren’t really that many female urologists snd proctologists but I wouldn’t discount one as a perv and overlook what could be a quality professional. There are online reviews and ratings for almost everything these days so the quality of doctor is readily available pretty much anywhere.
 
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With all due resepect,I don’t think it’s silly.Maybe Americans culture see it that way but in my culture background it is more comfortable for women to see women doctor for women issues and vice versa for males.

The " perv concern" is based off reading news stories etc.
 
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Well I dont know what your culture is but whatever it is I wouldn’t put too much stock in “news stories” perhaps your time could be better spent researching your potential doctor.
 
You don’t believe in news stories?
I definitely agree about researching the doctors reviews online though but unfortunately here not everyone has reviews online even in this current day and age.
 
There is an old adage about being an obgyn’s wife being a tough gig. And I’ve spoken to several Male obgyns who have echoed the sentiment that it isn’t exactly as glamorous or sexy of a job as the population might think. And judging by some people I’ve seen in the waiting room, the last thing on someone’s mind might be a “perv” situation.
That all being said. One should definitely be comfortable with their doctor, Male or female.
 
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I’m actually more shocked you do believe news stories. As if journalism exists in a pure form. Do I believe news happens. Yes. Do I believe there is a reason some stories have traction yup you bet! In the US, in the past month there have been two dominant news stories that are false a hate crime on a person of color, and a hate crime of a Catholic school teen. There are pervs everywhere. I did a quick glance at a report in Canada that said roughly 75 percent of obgyns are women. Frankly, that surprises me. But hey, there you go. In America its kindergarten teachers. A Male kindergarten teacher probably never gets a fair treatment.
 
Yes, I would. If I were really uncomfortable I’d take a female friend or family member with me but that shouldn’t be necessary.

Honestly, gynaecologists are just doing their job. I highly doubt any of them would find anything sexual about helping you with a health issue, like any other kind of doctor.
 
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I can’t help feeling that some of them are potentially pervs who chose the field for ulterior reasons
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If you’re going to have this worry about doctors, then a female gynecologist might just as well be a gay “perv” who chose her field for ulterior reasons.

The vast majority of doctors of both genders are simply interested in doing their job as a doctor and not in doing perverted acts on their patients.
 
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I have a team of obgyns; one is a man. He delivered my third child. He is excellent–knowledgeable, skillful, kind, not dismissive. Re: modesty: He never examines me without a female nurse being present also, and I have never felt less comfortable with him than with my female doctors.

Pervy doctors–like molesting priests–make the news because they are NOT the norm.

That said: If you are not comfortable going to a male provider, don’t go. Obgyn appointments can be awkward no matter what, so you should do whatever is most comfortable for you. Most younger obgyns are female, so you shouldn’t have any trouble finding one; just make sure you pick someone who listens to you and shows you respect.
 
I have a male gyn…I had one for my last 2 kiddos also (but then he retired). I’ve had female gyns before also…both make no difference to me. What matters is their personality and bedside manner. All of mine have been decent people who listened to me. (And, I’m just throwing this in here for good measure but, not one has ever criticized my use of NFP or has tried to shove the Pill down my throat. I just won’t go out of my way to go to a NFP only gyn.)
 
I used to be uncomfortable with male gynecologists. It wasn’t that I worried about their motives, just that the entire thing was already so embarrassing. The first two I saw were female. After I had my first kid I stopped caring and had some Male OBs for the next kids.

For both males and females it has become procedure for a nurse or medical assistant to be in the room also during a pelvic exam so that you are not alone with the doc for that.

At this stage I care more how they treat me about all these csections and our refusing to contracept.

I will say that when I picked a female doc for my first pregnancy, she brought male medical students in with her sometimes so it didn’t help that I chose a female.
 
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Yes it’s a pet peeve of mine that doctors invite registrars/trainee doctors into patients consults (regardless what the medical issue is) without prior asking the patients permission or consideration of whether the patient wants this or not.

I think this happens primarily in public hospitals?
Procedures should be put in place that require doctors to first ask patients permission (providing they are conscious).
 
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No doubt unfortunately the media also often has its own agenda as the saying “never let the truth get in the way of a good story” .
 
Rozellelily said:
but I can’t help feeling that some of them are potentially pervs who chose the field for ulterior reasons
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What?? I seriously question what has you thinking men spend over a decade in medical training because they are “pervs” going into the field for ulterior motives. That is frankly insulting to all the wonderful doctors out there in OB/GYN specialties.
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I’m having some female health issues and I’m needing to see a Gynaecologist but I’ve noticed that quite a few of them are men.
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I have no problem going to any qualified doctor for treatment.

While there are are people in every walk of life and profession who are abusers or bad people, i don’t let fear rule my life. Because two news reports are not something to get worked up about and cast aspersions on an entire field of doctors.
 
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I chose a female gynecologist when I needed one for the first time, but I was very unhappy with her work and personality. After a few times with her, I checked around with women I knew for recommendations and then switched to a wonderful male gynecologist that several of them used. Best thing to do is get personal recommendations if you can - for a doctor of either gender, your preference. There will likely be many more to choose from who are males. Online recommendations can sometimes give a fairly good idea as well, but I much prefer personal ones. The main thing is for you to feel comfortable going to them and to trust them. As an aside, I also have a friend who is a male gynecologist (not the one I use!) who told me that they are trained in med school to think of their patients as being like their sisters, mothers, aunts, etc… He said it really helps him to be very professional.
 
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I chose a female gynecologist when I needed one for the first time, but I was very unhappy with her work and personality.
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Yeah, I was very unhappy with my first OB. I believe that she was medically doing everything right, but she had the bedside manner for veterinary medicine.

I’ve since been very happy with my (female) OB/GYNs.
 
I’ve always had a male Family Practice Doc (We like the FP model for our family, one doc who sees all of us) until my last move. Based on recommends from the folks I respect, our FP for the last 10 years has been a lady. Thing is, I never selected a doctor because of their gender, I care about their record, recommends, etc.
 
I have a male GYN. He’s fantastic.

My mother had both male and female providers during her pregnancies. She told me she actually preferred the men as she felt they were more compassionate.
 
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