Wrong to pray to avoid pregnancy?

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So, I’ll avoid all the gritty details, but suffice it to say that I made a mistake with our NFP tracking, and my wife and I were intimate during the most fertile period of her cycle, likely on the day of ovulation.

She is scared to death of having another kid right now, she doesn’t think we could manage it. We’ve had a number of financial difficulties in the last couple of weeks (had to buy a new car and our son needs tubes in his ears, among other things), not to mention the prospect of having to pay for a second child’s daycare, as my wife and I both have to work.

I’m stressing out about it really badly, and I haven’t mentioned it to her yet because it would only stress her out, and she’s stressed enough as is with her work. I just realized the mistake this morning when I was putting in her info, and given the natural length of her cycle it’s going to be two weeks or so until we can even begin to determine if she’s missed her period.

The point is, is it wrong to ask God that we not be pregnant? I don’t want to reject the gift of life, and I would welcome another child despite the hardship, but the prospect of having another child right now is just scary.
 
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Well, you either are pregnant or you are not.

My suggestion is to pray “Lord, give us the grace and peace that will baffle everyone around us regardless of the circumstances that surround us. As you slept in the boat during the raging storm, I ask you for that same stillness of spirit.”
 
Yeah, I know, and that’s the type of outlook I’ve been trying to adopt. I know we could manage if this does happen, but I can’t seem to stop stressing about it, which is odd for me because I don’t stress about anything…
 
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Jesus prayed: let this cup pass from me, but let not my will but your will be done.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with the prayer you mentioned. Especially if you also ask for the strength to welcome a possible baby with peace in your heart, if needs be.

I’m also going to say a prayer for your family.
 
I’ll give the same advice I give to people who debate the percentage of people in Hell.

God’s will, will be done. And whatever it is, let it be done.

Say that to God!

Ps. You can also surender to God your frustrations and vent to him. He will be like: “I know. Trust me. I know.”

Tell God how much you love and need him. Cry out and beseech him. Pretend that you are an animal stranded in the wilderness, and God will come to rescue you. Throw yourself into his arms and give him your entire will. Have extreme diffidence in yourself, and extreme confidence in God.

Let us love God so much:)
 
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It isn’t wrong to have a conversation with God about anything. But, you either are or you aren’t. There is not a time machine involved. So I’m not sure that is a productive prayer.

Just an NFP question, you indicate you don’t want to tell your wife but she has to know it was risky right? I mean she has to have some idea…
 
Pray that God’s will be done. I’m sure lots of us will do the same, for you. Trust Him to get you through, whatever the outcome, one step at a time!
 
I don’t really see what the point of asking for it not to happen is. I don’t think it’s wrong, but just kind of futile.

I do think you should tell your wife though. This is information that is her right to know. Sometimes my husband won’t tell me something in an effort not to stress me out and it just makes me mad. I’m kind of confused though- I mean how do you track her cycle without her (name removed by moderator)ut? Whether it’s temp or other data/observations, you have to get them from her, so is she really unaware of what you are tracking?
 
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Just an NFP question, you indicate you don’t want to tell your wife but she has to know it was risky right? I mean she has to have some idea…
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She usually leaves the tracking to me, though she will put in her mucus rating from time to time. She mainly just takes her temps and leaves it to me.

She had mentioned openness to intimacy, and I wasn’t paying close enough attention to the temperature readings. I just kind of assumed her mucus had dried up and she was paying attention.
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I’m kind of confused though- I mean how do you track her cycle without her (name removed by moderator)ut? Whether it’s temp or other data/observations, you have to get them from her, so is she really unaware of what you are tracking?
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She is aware we’re tracking, I just haven’t told her I messed up and that we were intimate on a potentially fertile night.
 
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It would be better just to pray for God’s help and guidance for the future whatever happens. But I think you should be open with your wife about your mistake.
 
There most certainly could be a time machine involved, why place limits on God’s power.
 
So, my wife is pregnant with number 7. She is 7 and a half months pregnant. Should I pray to God that she isn’t pregnant? The only difference between me and the OP is knowledge of a pregnancy. And why stop there. There is no theological difference between a baby pre birth and post birth so can the OP pray for his other child to not exist… I mean nothing is impossible for God right?
It kind of puts it into perspective when you realize his wife either is or isn’t carrying a new human soul right now…
 
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I get it, but when one does not know the outcome of an existing physical event, one often prays. My wife just had a breast cancer scare. While we were waiting for test results, we certainly prayed, yet she either had cancer or she didn’t (she didn’t BTW).
 
Thank goodness your wife is ok. And like I said one can pray for anything. But your wife didn’t have cancer and then you prayed and then it never happened. God doesnt work that way.
 
Well, I would suspect that a lot of people pray in that situation. I certainly no of instances where people pray that they did get pregnant in a given month. I think it makes perfect sense. We will just have to agree to disagree. But I bet if you look back on your life, you will find instances where you did the same, eg a kid gets taken to the emergency room and while waiting on the doctor you pray he’s ok, or you take an exam and subsequently pray you made an A. I think it is rather common.
 
Of course it’s common. But its ultimately ineffective. Like I said, prayer does not involve a time machine. The OPs wife either is or isn’t pregnant. He can pray for an orange lollipop but it would be more productive to pray for strength for he and his wife to handle the situation with joy.
They are not teens praying a pregnancy test says negative. They are a married couple fulfilling what married couples do…
 
I agree with you wholeheartedly about what would be a more productive prayer for the OP, actually that should be the main point for the thread. I should not have started the thread drift. Apologies to the OP.
 
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