21 Regrets People Express on Their Deathbeds; an Article

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From the first comment to this article:

“As a Catholic priest that works full-time as a chaplain for hospice, I say whomever wrote these 21 regrets has never seen a dying person, as people do not say any of the statements mention here. I have heard many things in the last few years but not any of these. Go out and visit a dying person, then write about your experience. The FAITH of someone dying is not comedy.”

That list is a joke.
 
Thanks for the list! Maybe we can learn from it so that when our time comes, we can go more prepared!
 
Tim_D said:
From the first comment to this article:

“As a Catholic priest that works full-time as a chaplain for hospice, I say whomever wrote these 21 regrets has never seen a dying person, as people do not say any of the statements mention here. I have heard many things in the last few years but not any of these. Go out and visit a dying person, then write about your experience. The FAITH of someone dying is not comedy.”

That list is a joke.
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Why is the list a joke? i have those sort of regrets even now.
No one suggested it was comedy. It was a Spanish priest, maybe Catholics in Spain are more sensitive to their obligations.

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Tim_D said:
From the first comment to this article:

“As a Catholic priest that works full-time as a chaplain for hospice, I say whomever wrote these 21 regrets has never seen a dying person, as people do not say any of the statements mention here. I have heard many things in the last few years but not any of these. Go out and visit a dying person, then write about your experience. The FAITH of someone dying is not comedy.”

That list is a joke.
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Why do you say that? I can identify with everyone of those sentiments, do you say what you say because when a person is dying he/she will not be in the frame of mind to think coherently? Please explain.
 
Tim_D said:
From the first comment to this article:

“As a Catholic priest that works full-time as a chaplain for hospice, I say whomever wrote these 21 regrets has never seen a dying person, as people do not say any of the statements mention here.”.
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Hi Tim,
I wonder how those who visit the thread will respond to the list of regrets?
Here are the first 10 from the list:

“For the times when I set a bad example, and there were people who followed my lead
For my indifference in the face of someone’s suffering
For failing to say so many words of praise, recognition and encouragement to those who deserved them or needed them
For claiming credit for my triumphs but blaming my failures on circumstances
For having failed to respect someone’s innocence or having blocked someone’s dreams
That I wasted money on things that I didn’t need and never used
For the times I took too much time and not enough effort to forgive
For taking advantage of someone who loved me, in order to get something for myself
For not being careful to guide those I should have educated better, before it was too late
For not visiting or sharing time with people because I thought they weren’t interesting, educated or useful”
 
Does anyone seriously think that a person on their deathbed would say that one of their biggest regrets was "not visiting or sharing time with people because I thought they weren’t interesting, educated or useful" or “having failed to respect someone’s innocence or having blocked someone’s dreams?” If you do, you’ve obviously never seen someone die.
 
I’m assuming the priest didn’t have his andriod out to record the exact syntax of words being exchanged.

I already have the first regret right now and I’m 30 years old: the way I sometimes blew people off in the past because of various assumptions.
 
Tim_D said:
Does anyone seriously think that a person on their deathbed would say that one of their biggest regrets was "not visiting or sharing time with people because I thought they weren’t interesting, educated or useful" or “having failed to respect someone’s innocence or having blocked someone’s dreams?”
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It makes sense to me. I’ve been honored to be close to friends as they were dying and have heard expressions of regret which resonated with those listed.
While I am not dying (as far as I know), I have shared in some of these regrets.
I honor those regrets in others, as they express a shared loss, resulting from their actions or, at times, in-actions.
Perhaps you are more self-giving than my friends or I hae been. May God bless you and all who visit this thread.
Amen.
 
From the article, the priest who made the list, did so from his own experience in being with the dying over the course of his priesthood.

I don’t doubt he was a witness to these things.

Jim
 
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