3-4 Years before Leaving For Canada

[johto760]

Hi to Everyone,
I love this forum, I kind of like come here for counselling, guidance and wisdom.

Am a 19 year old, 3rd year Irregular student here in the Philippines, I’ve never had a Girlfriend since birth, some say I just lost my motivation or something, and now, I’m having a VERY VERY hard time deciding whether or not to approach this AMAZINGLY AMAZING woman that my cool friend showed me as a textmate ^^, She’s almost everything that i could ever want for a future Girlfriend (and hopefully, PRAYERFULLY a spouse ^^).

“Why is this such a problem for me?”, a question I almost always ponder to myself, and I’ve come upon some reasons, since I’m really REALLY afraid that this kind of girl wouldn’t even think twice before letting me go, I’m Really not bothered at all about this, i feel like it’s almost, NORMAL, for me to feel like she wouldn’t like me or something, my thoughts are mostly focusing on the positive things that MIGHT happen, it’s really COOL, ^_^:

1.) After I graduated from College, I SHOULD AND WOULD REALLY LOVE to go to Canada, ASAP!,

2.) Because I’m leaving for Canada in about 3-4 years from now, I feel like, if something PROFOUND would’ve happened between us, (Say, she’d be my Girl ^_^), I don’t want her to suffer the hardships of a “Long Distance Relationship”,

3.)If, indeed, something WOULD’VE happen (Say, She’d love me like crazy, but, I find it VERY VERRY VERRRY Impossible for her to even LIKE me, ^^ maybe this is due to some insecurity I have, not sure though. ^^), and in the mercy of the Heavenly Father, She’d feel strong enough for a “Long Distance Relationship” with me, That WOULD SIMPLY BE, THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING THAT COULD EVER HAPPEN to ME, SO FAR ^_^.

4.) If LOVE WOULDN’T Come between us, then That would be Dull, and An Utter Disaster for this Heart of mine, (this is the part that I’m almost 100% sure will happen, ^^, but, I’m Assuming that because of what I feel right now, I’m still Being positive. ^^)

Number 3 would be the most tricky part to decipher, 'cause it’s a very, Merrily, positive reason, ^_^,

~SUMMARY~
Problem:
-Finding it hard to decide whether or not to approach this AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFUL girl, Because I would be leaving for Canada in 3-4 years, and if LOVE would come between us, I REALLY don’t want her to suffer the pains and hardships of having a “Long Distance Relationship”.

Tricky Part:
-My Heart, Mind and Soul is focused on Number 3. (Reasons I gave Above ^_^), and right now I feel like I don’t want to know whether number 3 would happen or not, because if it were to happen, then I’d be Hurting the ONLY ONE That I COULD (I don’t think i love her yet) LOVE faster Than A heartbeat.

My Heart is Pounding like Crazy, My Mind is Boggled up into knots that Even An Intense “state of trance” of a prayer couldn’t untangle completely, But my Soul Rejoices Thouroughly with a single thought of her smile, ^_^, My Emotions drown in Fear of Being Rejected, But Strives, Bravely and Swiftly, to combat the fear with a Sword entrenched with Joy, Peace, And LOVE.

This is the very first time that I’m this Happily interested in a girl, but also the very first to feel this disdained by the sudden rush of Negativity , flooding me, spamming every second it gets.

Right now I feel like There’s not much of a problem here, I Think I just wanted to share this story so as to know what other Amazing Catholics/Christians would say/comment. ^_^,

Thanks for Taking the Time to Read. I understand that this is bothersome, but, I’m longing for other people’s point of view almost all the time,

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GOD LOVES YOU>

 

[withwind]

“She’s almost everything that i could ever want for a future Girlfriend”

What qualities are you looking for in a girlfriend?
If something sounds too good to be true, you better watch out.

To save yourself time instead of waiting for 3 years - why not saving up some money by working part time, buy a ticket and visit her in Canada and see her in person for yourself before getting overly crazy about someone you have never met.

 

[johto760]

“She’s almost everything that i could ever want for a future Girlfriend”

What qualities are you looking for in a girlfriend?
If something sounds too good to be true, you better watch out.

To save yourself time instead of waiting for 3 years - why not saving up some money by working part time, buy a ticket and visit her in Canada and see her in person for yourself before getting overly crazy about someone you have never met.

Thanks for Commenting,

First off, I still am in the Philippines, so is she, I and she are both HERE in the PHILIPPINEs, and I have met her, talked to her, but just not in person,

Sorry for the misunderstanding,

She’s a nursing Student here in the Philippines, and I am an Info. Tech Student HERE in the Philippines, just to be clear.

I have talked to her, not just yet in person, and I’m having trouble whether to approach her or not, because I’m leaving to go to Canada, in 3-4 years, and it’s fairly hard for me to be distracted by negative thoughts, this feeling is just too good to feel bad.

I know I can (Approach her and Stuff, because I had done a number of amazing things in my life-span, if I really focused on it ^^), so how to approach her is not much of a problem, am not even close to being GOOD in approaching women, but I have done it, a couple of times, and it didn’t went so bad. ^^,

Anyways. ^^ Thanks for Commenting about this. your point is not “Spot on” but I’ll take your advice to heart. ^^

GOD LOVES YOU>