A Bit of Help With Gender Dysphoria

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So, since about 7th grade, I’ve had a problem with gender dysphoria, it’s done so much damage to my life, and it just keeps getting stronger. I am very Catholic, and I do not believe in the whole transitioning thing. At this point, I am so desperate for help, I don’t know if I can keep living like this, I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to do anything too rash or sinful, I don’t want to disrespect the Lord in any way. At this point I’m just asking if anyone has any advice they may be able to offer. Whether or not they do, I really appreciate the help, and I want to say thank you.
 
Have you talked to your parents (Depending on your age), a reputable priest, and maybe a good Catholic psychiatrist about this? Doing that, in that order, would be some good steps to take.
 
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See a doctor for a diagnosis of your problem, and get therapy to help you better understand what you are going through and to help you understand any other problems you may be having, and learning how to cope.
 
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I am currently 16, my parents found out on their own shortly before I planned to tell them, and they did not agree with it at all. I tried my best to tell them that I cannot control this and I do not want this, but to no avail. I understand they are trying to protect me, and I love them for that, I just wish they would understand.
 
I am finally getting the courage to tell my doctor, and I do plan to when next I get the chance, hoping for a proper diagnosis.
 
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Understand what exactly? Having a condition itself is not sinful. Just like experiencing same sex attraction is not sinful, It’s actions that are sinful. A lot of people your age come on here panicking because they feel a need to do x, y and z that is wrong. The first thing you should be concerned about is what exactly are you doing right in your life? Are you feeding the poor? Are you comforting the lonely? Do you stand up for the helpless? My advice is don’t let one issue define you as a person.
 
Getting some guidance, or a referral, from a priest may be helpful. Perhaps just talking to him to get things out will also be helpful. Anyway, talking to a doctor is the best route as far as possible treatment options.
 
They don’t understand that it is a condition, and nothing I told or showed them would change their mind.
 
Generally, at that age, hormones are raging. It’s a transition period. Variall is looking for help here.
 
Do your best to act with charity towards them. From what you have said, they love you and want to help you. Discussing this with a health care professional would probably be the next step, and I see above that you intend to do so. Hopefully that meeting can convince your parents that this is not a choice. I’ll be praying for you.
 
Yeah i have plenty of extended relatives like that. But since the OP is not looking to make a transition then I’m not really sure what the question is. This kind of thing often passes with age, unlike same sex attraction.
 
I’ve been waiting for it to pass, it just keeps getting worse.
 
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I apologize, by the way, if I say anything that makes it seem as though I’m just looking for attention. I’m really shy/embarrassed about the whole thing, and I really don’t mean it in an attention-seeking way. I just need help.
 
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Consider being in the parents’ shoes for a minute. When I developed a mental health problem when I was younger, this was not on the list of what parents expect. Since it was not an outward condition, like a broken bone or chicken pox, no one knows what it feels like. I found a few support groups that helped me. My parents eventually got it. But, at first, ‘how could this be’? An honest reaction (I’m not referring to abusive parents).
 
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It sounds like you want help to control or change your situation so that you don’t feel trapped with this problem. It also sounds like you don’t want to give in to your temptation which is very good and noble. I would recommend continuing to avoid acting on the temptation and keep yourself constantly busy with work, school, cleaning, chores, etc.

The danger into falling into temptation would be getting bored and idling, and not avoiding near occasions of sin. You’ll be in my prayers.

Peace.

+JMJ+
 
One of the things that you might consider is spending some quiet time in front of Our Lord at Adoration asking for guidance. That should be acceptable to your parents. Surprisingly, or maybe not suprisingly at alll, Adoration helps A LOT.

Blessings,
Stephie
 
Oh, I get it. You explained your situation well and your desire to get help. I used to be more like that, meaning I did not ask for help when I should have.
 
Overall it’s a good video. Couple of places where he made some errors but thankfully it doesn’t undermine the overall arguement. Thanks for sharing.
 
What I find interesting about your post is that you said this problem appeared in 7th grade. That’s when puberty starts for a lot of people. From what I’ve heard about people with gender dysphoria, the claim is that they have felt this way as long as they can remember.

I think we can provide better advice with more context. I’m not a expert, but, maybe someone can direct you to specific resources.

What is your actual sex? Is the problem primarily lack of rapport with peers of the same sex, a feeling of not belonging, so to say, or feeling uncomfortable in your own skin? Or both? Do you have feelings for the same sex?

Physically speaking, are you developmentally within the same range as most of your peers or seemingly behind or ahead?

Honestly, from the information already given, it seems like something that would not persist into adulthood. And, I’ve also read articles of from people who were convinced that were the opposite sex when they were young, but realized they just has same sex attraction and had unconventional tastes compared to most people of their sex.
 
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