A Calling to do More- (a Testimonial)

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It was just three years ago when I concluded the RCIA program for adult initiation and confirmation within the Catholic Church. Prior to that I was baptized as an infant, but never brought up truly in the Faith and in the Church teachings. This fact gives me a bit of a unique perspective, as I look at numerous “cradle Catholics” in my area and in my sphere of influence, and I can see that many of them have taken their Faith (and the Church) for granted, and have ceased all spiritual growth at the age of sixteen or so. That is the perspective from where I write the following personal story and appeal of greater parish involvement.
Quite simply, the Catholic Church needs more help. Surely it needs more monetary assistance in many cases, but it also needs more help with time commitments from the members of the laity. I realize I’m not the first or last to say that, and usually that appeal falls on deaf ears. But I would plead with you to hear my story, and to search within your own soul for the answers.
I was living what many would call a “good life” not too long ago. Married to a beautiful and wonderful woman, with two near-perfect young children, Kaleigh and Shane. Had the nice house with the picket fence, and we weren’t too concerned with how the grocery bill would be paid next week. I did consider myself fairly religious and attended Mass regularly, as well as doing a bit of volunteer work for my local parish. Though I took things for granted sometimes, all in all- everything was “good”.
Then, on January 11th, I kissed “Goodbye” to my daughter and son for the last time- unknowingly to me at that moment. They were going to a sleep-over, and my wife and I were looking forward to a rare weekend without the children; a rare “married couples” weekend. That evening around 8pm was the last time we would see our beautiful children alive.
Later that evening Kaleigh and Shane would be killed on the highway. From that initial phone call, to the hospital that night, to this very moment as I write, our lives have changed dramatically- and forever. But this article is not about death and misery, it is about hope and what has become the main focus of my life- and how that hope helps me live through everyday in the face of unthinkable and painful tragedy.
You and I have a “calling”, and it is not very different from that of a Bishop or Priest. We are all part of the Great Commission that Jesus established with his disciples nearly 2,000 years ago. That mandate has not changed in 2,000 years, and today, in 2008, we in the Church are still His disciples. But I don’t see many whom I would call “disciples” of Christ, and I struggle with that mandate myself.
The best way for the average Catholic out there to strengthen the Church and to live as a true disciple is within his/her local Parish community. As I’ve been paying attention to the needs of my local Parish over the past few years, I see many issues that all Dioceses are facing across the country:
FINANCIAL STRUGGLES- (I say all of the following while admitting that I have also fallen short of what the Lord and the Bible have taught us.) All Christians (and never forget that we Catholics are Christians- first and foremost) are required, per the Old Testament books, to give 10% of their earnings to the Church’s works. The New Testament does not specifically promote a number or percentage, although it clearly states to make giving to the Lord’s work a very real priority. Often times we Catholics see a grandiose Muslim mosque, Methodist church, or a Mormon temple being erected and we wonder how they can afford to do that. My theory, and one that I’ve seen firsthand, is that the majority of Catholics do NOT give even 2% or 3% to their local parish, let alone what God has set forth. There are two ways that we can easily show how important someone or something is in our lives. One is -what or who are we financially supporting? We must realize that the glorious local and international missions of the Church cannot be realized if we do not, as a whole, increase our regular offerings.
LOGISTICAL AND EDUCATIONAL SHORTFALLS- By this title I mean all of the programs, including child and adult education, that the Parish is involved with. It’s very clear that 20% of the parish community is doing 80% of all the volunteer work that must be done to keep these wonderful programs afloat. This is a major problem, and I can assure you that if you’ve never asked your Pastor “What can I do to help”, he will rattle off five tasks or committees in less than 20 seconds! There is always much to be done. What specifically are you doing to help in the missions/ in God’s plan?
DON’T BE A “CINO” (Catholic In Name Only)- I’ve met and known many, many Catholics who know nothing of their Faith other than a few rituals and Creeds that they memorized back in middle school. They were confirmed at sixteen or seventeen years old, and then their nurturing of the Faith within them stopped. This is truly a waste and a shame. One will never find comfort in the knowledge of the Sacred Scripture and the Church Teachings if it is acceptable to stop your spiritual life as a teenager. That won’t help you later in adult life as you meet the certain difficulties and questions that will confront you. Be proud of your Faith, and you will learn quickly that the more you read and pray, the more you will want to know about the Gospel and all of the Church’s Teachings.
In conclusion, are you living a life that is helping others and the goals of the Church, or are you “just living”? I attest that we are more than merely dust and clay, and we should do more than “just live”. The Lord created all of us in His image, and we were created, amongst other reasons, to glorify Him. Please look at your spiritual walk, and ask yourself if you are allowing yourself to be used as He wishes.
 
Thank you for your message and testimony. I confess I fall short on the monetary and time commitments (graduate school doesn’t leave much of either), but I really want to do more and hope I can devote more of myself to the Church this summer…

God bless you for keeping your faith in the aftermath of such a tragedy. I know you didn’t mean to focus on sadness, but such a tale does tear at my heart.
 
Thank you for the inspiration you offer. You said it all. May God help you, us, and me to live and share the true gospel message without religiosity but with active and genuine faith and action.

Dear Father God, help us to truly live the gospel in the spirit of Jesus, through the Holy Spirit

*“You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you, and then you will be my witnesses not only in Jerusalem but indeed…to the ends of the earth.” [John 16:8-9, 12-13, 15]
“Since the Father loved us so much that He sent You to be the sacrifice that takes our sins away, we too should love one another.” [John 4:10-11] “By such love, everyone will know that we are Your disciples.” “Anyone who says ‘I love God’, and hates his brother is a liar, since a person who does not love the brother that he can see, cannot love God whom he has never seen.” [John 15:12-13, 12:35, 4:20-21]
“Let us love one another, since love comes from God.” [John 4:7] Our love “is not to be mere words or mere talk, but something real and active; only by this can we be certain that we are children of the truth.” [John 3:18-19] Your apostle Paul exhorts, “Do not let your love be pretence, but sincerely prefer good to evil. Love each other as brothers should, and have a profound respect for each other…If any of the saints are in need you must share with them; and you must make hospitality your special care.” [Romans 12:9-13]
“Lord, when did we see You hungry and feed You; or thirsty and give You drink? When did we see You a stranger and make You welcome; naked and clothe You; sick or in prison and go to see You?” Jesus replies “I tell you solemnly, in so far as you did this to one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did it to me.” “In so far as you neglected to do this to one of the least, you neglected to do it to me.” [Matthew 25:37-40, 45-46]
“Is there a poor brother among you, one of your brothers, in any town of yours? Do not harden your heart or close your hand against that poor brother of yours, but be open-handed with him.” [Deuteronomy 15:7-8] “Each one should give what he has decided in his own mind, not grudgingly or because he is made to, ‘for God loves a cheerful giver.’” [Proverbs 28:2] “And there is no limit to the blessings which God can send you…for yourselves…for all sorts of good works.” [2Corinthians 9:6-8] “None of us lives for himself only.” [Romans 14:7]
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May God bless you, Ken for enduring such tragedy and using it to further the message of the Gospel and promote involvement in our wonderful Catholic Church.

I am a father of 2 yound children myself and cannot imagine what you have been through. God is using you now as an instrument of His Divine Plan.

You have some great points that coincide with what I am trying to do in my area. I’d like to speak with you further if you’d like to share some ideas. PM me if you’d like to talk.

Pax
 
…That evening around 8pm was the last time we would see our beautiful children alive Later that evening Kaleigh and Shane would be killed on the highway…
I’m very sorry for your loss. May God give you strength and comfort during this trying time in your life.
…All Christians…are required, per the Old Testament books, to give 10% of their earnings to the Church’s works. The New Testament does not specifically promote a number or percentage, although it clearly states to make giving to the Lord’s work a very real priority…
Actually, as Catholics we are called to give everything to God. All of our gifts of time, talent, and treasure is to further the kingdom of God. That’s a tough mandate, but true.
LOGISTICAL AND EDUCATIONAL SHORTFALLS- By this title I mean all of the programs, including child and adult education, that the Parish is involved with. It’s very clear that 20% of the parish community is doing 80% of all the volunteer work that must be done to keep these wonderful programs afloat.
Sadly, I get the sense, at least at our parish, that the 20% that do all the work, would rather keep it that way. I don’t know how to change that mindset. It’s almost as if they like to complain that there are too few people to help, but then don’t make it much of a priority to actually go out and find help.
…Please look at your spiritual walk, and ask yourself if you are allowing yourself to be used as He wishes.
This is a good question. As someone who has gotten more involved at our parish over the past few years, I have found that our own parish priest stifles growth in finding “laborers for the vineyard”. He appears to have an agenda that rubs people the wrong way which is pushing the few who do participate to want to stop wasting their time since growth is not transpiring. I have found that sometimes those who were once quite active at their churches have left the Catholic Church and looked elsewhere in other Protestant communities. For them to leave what they could have in the Eucharist is a tragedy. When leadership is lacking at the highest level of the parish - our pastors - it becomes more difficult to convince others who currently do not participate that their contribution will have any lasting impact.

But we need to look beyond the poor leadership qualities some of our priests may have and contribute anyway. It takes swallowing a pride pill sometimes but we need to trust that God will make good of the situation.
 
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