A couple relationships questions

[St_Francis]

so it’s the person’s fault if they want to go on a completely chaste and innocent vacation and others use that as an excuse to gossip? it’s simply because many people don’t believe that chastity is possible

and it doesn’t have to even be vacation. people have gossiped about me simply for having male friends, or speaking to a guy in public. somehow that turned in to me trying to hit on all the boys and I must be dating all of them. and of course dating translates in to having sex.

when I got good grades in school, other started rumors that it’s because the teachers felt sorry for me because of my disability.

I don’t know, I just don’t understand assumptions. unless someone specifically tells me that they are having sex with their boyfriend, I don’t even think that, even if they live together. or I don’t think that a male and female are dating just because they are out in public together

ISTM you mentioned that you go to church with a lot of Phillipines women? Perhaps they are applying the standards they lived under in their country to young people in the attempt to keep the young people in line?

You have frequently mentioned gossipy people at your church; have you discussed this with either your priest, or maybe a priest from a different parish who would be uninvolved?

It is one thing to give scandal, another to take scandal. I am a bit dubious about a young couple going *alone *on vacation, like I would suggest to my children ( who are around your age) that it would be less than wise, but certainly being friends with young men is not at all scandalous, so it seems that they may be taking scandal.

Sigh, all in all, have you considered going to a different parish?