A Former Friend

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I’d like some opinions about this.

There’s a woman I’ve been friends with, off and on, since the late 70"s. We can never stay friends for any length of time. She and I are so different these days.
A few years ago she was always talking to me about how her sister had been trying to get pregnant, trying pretty much everything the medical field has to offer, to no avail.
The infertility problem was on the part of her husband.

One day this friend told me that she’d been wanting to have her husband donate sperm to the sister to get her pregnant, that since both of their husbands are alike in coloring (dark hair, dark eyes) no one would know that it was actually the friend’s husband’s bio child. She also said that her sister didn’t want to do this.

A short time later, after years of trying and using all that the medical field has to offer, including one of the best doctors in the area for infertility, her sister got pregnant. Then quickly went on to have two more kids.

I figured that the sister went along with the plan but, like my former friend said, no one will know.

There are several things about this former friend that I just don’t agree with. She still parties, is very self-centered, church shops (Protestant churches) – yet made snarky comments to me about my newfound enthusiasm when I returned to the CC, but the worst of it for me was that she told me that she wanted to use her own husband’s sperm to impregnate her sister and possibly (probably?) did.

What are your thoughts about someone who’d want her own husband to impregnate her sister, thus making her kids and her sister’s kids half cousins, half siblings?
 
Avoid such friends like the plague. From your ex-friends attitude towards your return to the church, you will have no influence over her. All such a friendship can do is to lower you to acceptance of her amoral beliefs.
 
Avoid such friends like the plague. From your ex-friends attitude towards your return to the church, you will have no influence over her. All such a friendship can do is to lower you to acceptance of her amoral beliefs.
We’re facebook friends but rarely interact with one another. Other than that, I haven’t spoken to her in, maybe 3 years or so.
 
What are your thoughts about someone who’d want her own husband to impregnate her sister, thus making her kids and her sister’s kids half cousins, half siblings?
Well, apart from the risks to relationships and the obvious caution about counseling being needed beforehand, it is not an issue for me, but then I am not a believer. I can see why the moral issue is an issue for you as a believer, but why do you feel that you, or anyone else, should have ‘thoughts about’ your friend. What in Catholic teaching requires or advises there thoughts about her? And if you had them, what in Catholic teaching requires or advises that they be shared?
 
Well, apart from the risks to relationships and the obvious caution about counseling being needed beforehand, it is not an issue for me, but then I am not a believer. I can see why the moral issue is an issue for you as a believer, but why do you feel that you, or anyone else, should have ‘thoughts about’ your friend. What in Catholic teaching requires or advises there thoughts about her? And if you had them, what in Catholic teaching requires or advises that they be shared?
This whole situation creeped me out long before I returned to the Church.
 
I’d like some opinions about this.
You are not being very charitable to your friend. All you have is suspicion.

A medical advance may have cured her brother-in-law’s problem. Her sister may have found a different donor; it isn’t as if dark haired, dark eyed men are rare.

You are acting on suspicion, instead of fact. That may mean you are making an error.

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I wouldn’t assume that God has not blessed them with children.

I would HIDE your friend’s posts on FB.

Or just defriend if it bugs you.
 
It seems that you already have a very superficial relationship. If I were you I’d just let this ‘friendhip’ die a natural death. When people creep you out for whatever reason it is not a good sign.
 
You are not being very charitable to your friend. All you have is suspicion.

A medical advance may have cured her brother-in-law’s problem. Her sister may have found a different donor; it isn’t as if dark haired, dark eyed men are rare.

You are acting on suspicion, instead of fact. That may mean you are making an error.

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rossum
Her brother-in-law wasn’t “cured,” according to the former friend. Only one of the children (the former friend’s own son) has dark hair/eyes, which is the former friend’s son. The rest of her kids look even more like full siblings to their cousins and/or 1/2 siblings than they do to each other.
 
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