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Dear future wife,
Although I rarely write here on these forums, I can’t help but feel compelled to write something to you. It’s wedding season right now, and all this talk about marriage has made me think about you a lot lately. I just wanted to tell you how much I love you, even now–even though I don’t yet know who you are. I am praying for you every day, and I can’t wait until the day we meet. Marriage is such a huge commitment, and I know that God wants us both to grow up and mature a little bit more before that day can come.
You may find this hard to believe, but I am a young Catholic man who strives to obey the Church in all things. I know how discouraging the dating scene can be these days–it seems as though there are no young men in sight when it comes time to go to Mass. Most men my age avoid the Church because they think it is too feminine. And it is true that in many ways, churches have become overly effeminate in their presentation of the faith. But I know that a real man is a man who serves and protects. And what better way to serve and protect you than to pray for you during Mass, in the real presence of Jesus Christ? Your faith is very important to you, and I will honor that. I promise, when we meet, our Catholic faith will always come first.
Speaking of being a man–it is difficult to do that these days, with the radical feminists trying to undermine the role of men. Many of us are confused about gender roles, and as a result, we grow up to be wimps. But I am not like that. I am doing my best to be a strong man, a man of Christ, so that when we meet I will be the best man I can be for you. I even find myself making an extra trip or two to the gym from time to time–I want to be your knight and protect you to the best of my ability.
Secular society has a completely warped idea of what marriage is. I have witnessed so many broken marriages–broken families–because one or both spouses did not understand what real love is. I don’t want us to end up like that. Real love is an action, not a feeling–though it is true that there are feelings associated with real love. These couples got married based on their feelings alone, not on a genuine love for each other. Where there is a lack of love, there is selfishness–and a marriage in which there is selfishness cannot stand. Hence, the huge number of divorces today. People have lost their sense of what true love is; a complete gift of oneself to the other. I promise, when we meet, I will love you with real love for as long as we both live.
There is so much confusion about sex today. Fornication, contraception, abortion–all of these things turn sex from a giving act into a selfish taking act. But I know that in order to be a complete gift of the couple to each other, sex can only work inside the commitment of marriage. Because I cannot bear the thought of giving you a substandard, incomplete gift, I have decided to remain chaste. When we meet, you’ll never feel pressured to have sex before we are married. I respect you too much to let that happen. I promise, I will save myself for you and for none other.
You may sometimes feel like you have to look like a supermodel or actress in order to be considered attractive. But I am here to tell you, you are already the most beautiful woman in the world to me–even though I haven’t seen you yet. So many women think they have to wear makeup and dress immodestly to appear attractive. But the truth is, a woman is far more attractive to me when she is secure with herself the way she is, and when she dresses in a way that is respectful to her own body. If you want me to find you, don’t do anything to your appearance. Your natural beauty is what will attract me.
Once we’re together, I will always be by your side. When you need to talk about anything, I will listen. When you need to be comforted, I will hold you. When you’re feeling sad, I will kiss you on the cheek. When we have children, I want to raise them with the same love and devotion that our parents raised us, while doing my best to not make the same mistakes they did. But I am by no means perfect–I, too, struggle with sin. But when I think of you, my desire to sin goes away because I think of how sin hurts those around us–and I would hate to hurt you in any way. It is for this reason that I feel God is calling us to be together–that we may help each other avoid sin and make it to heaven. And you are already helping me by your prayers and by the fact that I can’t stop thinking about you.
These things are difficult for me to write because I am not very good with words. But if by some crazy chance you are actually reading this, then it is worth it. I love you very much. I will be praying for you from afar until the day we meet, on which we can begin praying together. If you ever feel lonely, just think of me. I really do exist. Love,
Your future husband
Although I rarely write here on these forums, I can’t help but feel compelled to write something to you. It’s wedding season right now, and all this talk about marriage has made me think about you a lot lately. I just wanted to tell you how much I love you, even now–even though I don’t yet know who you are. I am praying for you every day, and I can’t wait until the day we meet. Marriage is such a huge commitment, and I know that God wants us both to grow up and mature a little bit more before that day can come.
You may find this hard to believe, but I am a young Catholic man who strives to obey the Church in all things. I know how discouraging the dating scene can be these days–it seems as though there are no young men in sight when it comes time to go to Mass. Most men my age avoid the Church because they think it is too feminine. And it is true that in many ways, churches have become overly effeminate in their presentation of the faith. But I know that a real man is a man who serves and protects. And what better way to serve and protect you than to pray for you during Mass, in the real presence of Jesus Christ? Your faith is very important to you, and I will honor that. I promise, when we meet, our Catholic faith will always come first.
Speaking of being a man–it is difficult to do that these days, with the radical feminists trying to undermine the role of men. Many of us are confused about gender roles, and as a result, we grow up to be wimps. But I am not like that. I am doing my best to be a strong man, a man of Christ, so that when we meet I will be the best man I can be for you. I even find myself making an extra trip or two to the gym from time to time–I want to be your knight and protect you to the best of my ability.
Secular society has a completely warped idea of what marriage is. I have witnessed so many broken marriages–broken families–because one or both spouses did not understand what real love is. I don’t want us to end up like that. Real love is an action, not a feeling–though it is true that there are feelings associated with real love. These couples got married based on their feelings alone, not on a genuine love for each other. Where there is a lack of love, there is selfishness–and a marriage in which there is selfishness cannot stand. Hence, the huge number of divorces today. People have lost their sense of what true love is; a complete gift of oneself to the other. I promise, when we meet, I will love you with real love for as long as we both live.
There is so much confusion about sex today. Fornication, contraception, abortion–all of these things turn sex from a giving act into a selfish taking act. But I know that in order to be a complete gift of the couple to each other, sex can only work inside the commitment of marriage. Because I cannot bear the thought of giving you a substandard, incomplete gift, I have decided to remain chaste. When we meet, you’ll never feel pressured to have sex before we are married. I respect you too much to let that happen. I promise, I will save myself for you and for none other.
You may sometimes feel like you have to look like a supermodel or actress in order to be considered attractive. But I am here to tell you, you are already the most beautiful woman in the world to me–even though I haven’t seen you yet. So many women think they have to wear makeup and dress immodestly to appear attractive. But the truth is, a woman is far more attractive to me when she is secure with herself the way she is, and when she dresses in a way that is respectful to her own body. If you want me to find you, don’t do anything to your appearance. Your natural beauty is what will attract me.
Once we’re together, I will always be by your side. When you need to talk about anything, I will listen. When you need to be comforted, I will hold you. When you’re feeling sad, I will kiss you on the cheek. When we have children, I want to raise them with the same love and devotion that our parents raised us, while doing my best to not make the same mistakes they did. But I am by no means perfect–I, too, struggle with sin. But when I think of you, my desire to sin goes away because I think of how sin hurts those around us–and I would hate to hurt you in any way. It is for this reason that I feel God is calling us to be together–that we may help each other avoid sin and make it to heaven. And you are already helping me by your prayers and by the fact that I can’t stop thinking about you.
These things are difficult for me to write because I am not very good with words. But if by some crazy chance you are actually reading this, then it is worth it. I love you very much. I will be praying for you from afar until the day we meet, on which we can begin praying together. If you ever feel lonely, just think of me. I really do exist. Love,
Your future husband
. Sorry. Hope you find the perfect girl for you.
You are entirely too funny Eamon…