A lost brother

[eeurogirly]

What do you do when someone you love,a brother or sister,is living a lifestyle that’s destructive.Is all you can do pray and wait,watching him/her destroy their life?
I am only a few years older than that person,a Catholic.It hurts,because he just got confirmed.He lives with me,and he and I are getting tired of me interfering.After all he is 21.
But it is so hard to keep one’s mouth shut when the person comes home drunk,stays out all night with a certain type of people,and just has all these things going on-and he’s family.I criticize him way to much.
There is no way of talking to him.
How should I pray,how should I react.I admit I am lost too in a way when it comes to my faith life,I have a lot of mistakes,but I always have that goal infront of me,to do right.And I fail over and over again…

 

[preyoflove]

I hope this is any comfort to you sister, but as your brother in Christ I will definitely pray for you.

May I suggest asking the intercession of St. Monica and her son St. Augustine, who before his conversion was truly a spike in his mother’s heart.

You know sometimes all you really can do is calmly warn him of his sinful ways and then yield the rest to the Holy Spirit, who truly has the power to change lives. And then pray that he listen to the Holy Spirit and do what He tells him.

As St. Padre Pio once said, “Pray, hope and don’t worry.”

Shalom, amen.

 

[Lance]

Since he lives with you, you do have some control of when and how he comes home. You should not say he can’t go out with his friends but you can say that it is your home and you do not want him coming home at 3 a.m. drunk. It may be tough but if he can’t follow some reasonable rules tell him he has to find another place to live. Above all continue to pray for him.