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Sherlockjr
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My father and mother are Catholic and enjoyed a Catholic wedding. Their marriage was tumultuous and often violent, with both committing numerous acts of Adultery. Eleven years ago, they separated, ostensively to continue pursuing adulterous affairs. Through vacations and sucidal threats, they would occasionally reconcile, but at no time ceased their adulterous relationships. Five years ago, they legally divorced. No Annulment was sought. The next day, my father, who had moved cross-country, married another woman in a civil-ceremony. My mother remained in the live-in relationship she had since the on-set of the separation. One year ago, my mother’s partner left her. Eight months ago, my father’s legal wife gave birth to his son. Two months ago, my father’s legal wife left him, seeking divorce and custody of their child. Despite having had no contact for the prior five years, my mother and father immediately renewed a sexual relationship. Divorce proceedings have not yet commenced, but my father has made no attempt to reconcile the marriage. Given the two-thousand mile distance in my parents’ residencies, it would also seem he is forfeiting custody/visitation of his eight month old child. He has solicited my mother to disparage his legal wife’s reputation and motives. Of course, his legal wife has not been informed of his present relationship with my mother.
I don’t know where to start with the questions. What position does the Church hold on such matters? What is accorded to my father’s legal wife and their child? Is there any legitimacy whatsoever to my parents’ current relationship?
(And, I suppose, does anyone else find this arrangement as upsetting as I do? I removed my father from my life due to physical and verbal abuse as well as his unstable nature. My mother only sought to have a relationship with me after her partner left her. I was twelve when their affair began and was unwelcomed in their lives, as was the rest of her family. Both were physically and verbally absuive towards me. Accordingly, until entering adulthood, I resided with my grandparents. For ten months we tried to renew our relationship. I was/am suffering health and financial difficulties. She assisted me with small expenses, the first aid she provided since court-ordered support ceased at my eighteen birthday. She insisted I live with her. Having no reasonable alternative, I accepted. Two months ago, she showed up with my father to move me out of my old home. I objected, citing the position I had long held with him (insofar as I would not allow family members to disclose to him my telephone number or address). She told me there was no way she would allow me to stand in the way of their “friendship”. This was the first time they were together in five years. They were already sleeping together. I resisted moving in on these grounds. I was assured he would not be living or staying at the house (as he has relations in the area). I was also assured nothing was going on between them. One month ago, her new house settled and she and I moved in. Two days ago, my father came into town (his occupation involves extensive travel, though he has no work in the surrounding area-- he retains a house in his home state, in addition to, again, a legal wife, a six month child, and my twenty-year old sister. His legal wife vacated the house upon leaving him.). My mother informed me he would be staying with us whenever he was in town, for however long he desired. I objected. We argued. I was verbally maligned, threatened, then physically attacked. I was told by her to get out of her house immediately (I have residency and proof thereof) and by him that he never wanted to see me again. How am I to deal with this?)
I don’t know where to start with the questions. What position does the Church hold on such matters? What is accorded to my father’s legal wife and their child? Is there any legitimacy whatsoever to my parents’ current relationship?
(And, I suppose, does anyone else find this arrangement as upsetting as I do? I removed my father from my life due to physical and verbal abuse as well as his unstable nature. My mother only sought to have a relationship with me after her partner left her. I was twelve when their affair began and was unwelcomed in their lives, as was the rest of her family. Both were physically and verbally absuive towards me. Accordingly, until entering adulthood, I resided with my grandparents. For ten months we tried to renew our relationship. I was/am suffering health and financial difficulties. She assisted me with small expenses, the first aid she provided since court-ordered support ceased at my eighteen birthday. She insisted I live with her. Having no reasonable alternative, I accepted. Two months ago, she showed up with my father to move me out of my old home. I objected, citing the position I had long held with him (insofar as I would not allow family members to disclose to him my telephone number or address). She told me there was no way she would allow me to stand in the way of their “friendship”. This was the first time they were together in five years. They were already sleeping together. I resisted moving in on these grounds. I was assured he would not be living or staying at the house (as he has relations in the area). I was also assured nothing was going on between them. One month ago, her new house settled and she and I moved in. Two days ago, my father came into town (his occupation involves extensive travel, though he has no work in the surrounding area-- he retains a house in his home state, in addition to, again, a legal wife, a six month child, and my twenty-year old sister. His legal wife vacated the house upon leaving him.). My mother informed me he would be staying with us whenever he was in town, for however long he desired. I objected. We argued. I was verbally maligned, threatened, then physically attacked. I was told by her to get out of her house immediately (I have residency and proof thereof) and by him that he never wanted to see me again. How am I to deal with this?)
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