A question about marrying Catholic

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Hello! I’m new! I hope to get to know a lot of you over time… I used to post at beliefnet, but there was just so much negativity and so little true Christian charity that I had to stop posting there…

Anyway, by “marrying Catholic” I mean finding a faithful Catholic mate to live a Catholic marriage as a Catholic family.

I converted a couple of years ago, but it took me a while to fully “convert.” (actually, I’m still working on that… I have so far to go!!!) I was sorta lukewarm until I became pregnant last summer. I was very, very, very, VERY wicked and sinful to do that, I know. Now, I try much harder and I do everything I can to be fully obedient. I am making friends at Church - I’ve picked a parish that is very conservative and the friends I’m making are homeschoolin’, mantilla-wearing, Latin-chantin’ CONSERVATIVE Catholics!

They sure do seem to have good marriages and happy families. I wouldn’t mind having a family like that, myself. Only, I figure I can’t really do that because A)I don’t really know that many single men who are conservative Catholic (I’m 34, so most men I know are married) and B) I would think a conservative Catholic would want a woman who, well, didn’t have an illigitimate kid.

I am pretty busy, now, anyway… it’s not like I have time to “date” or anything of the sort. However, I’m making some career changes in order to have my weekends off so I can spend more time at Church and parish functions… perhaps, there will be time and an opportunity to meet someone?

Anyway, I guess my question is: do you think that a Conservative Catholic man might be interested in a woman who wanted to be traditional (NFP/Homeschool/submissive to husband/etc) even if she wasn’t always that way? Even if she has a bad “past?”
 
Don’t give up - pray, pray, pray. A true practicing Catholic will not judge you that quickly. I will pray for you too.
 
For starters, I’d start taking yourself more seriously. BE a Catholic. Stop explaining the rest of your life.

Commit yourself to prayer and rosaries, and you’ll find yourself a beautiflul life. God Bless!
 
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Anyway, I guess my question is: do you think that a Conservative Catholic man might be interested in a woman who wanted to be traditional (NFP/Homeschool/submissive to husband/etc) even if she wasn’t always that way? Even if she has a bad “past?”
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God bless you Katybird- let it happen and fall in love first and foremost! Doesn’t matter ‘what’ they are, if they love you, part of love is acceptance.
 
Katybird -

A true Catholic man will admire your choice of LIFE. Is there a pro life group at your parish? You are a walking living breathing testimony - get involved!

Peace - Kage
 
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Anyway, I guess my question is: do you think that a Conservative Catholic man might be interested in a woman who wanted to be traditional (NFP/Homeschool/submissive to husband/etc) even if she wasn’t always that way? Even if she has a bad “past?”
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Hi katybird, welcome to the forums!

Being a conservative Catholic man who is currently pursuing a relationship with a woman with a “bad past”, including a child out of wedlock, I can say that yes, if it’s God’s plan for you, you will find a man who will love you regardless of what you have done. Guys like the one you describe definitely exist, so trust in God and pray that He will help you find one.
 
Having a child out of wedlock is not an obstacle for finding a good Catholic guy. We don’t care what a woman’s past is…it is the present and future that counts.

The truth is that very few people today are virgins when they get married and even some of us conservative Catholic guys have slipped up in the past. We would never judge you.

When I was single, I dated Catholic women who were single moms. I even dated someone who had three children.

My best advice to you is to prepare yourself to be a wife: work on your spiritual life, excercise and keep the best physical appearance you can (very important), and go out and meet people. There are several Catholic dating websites where you can connect with conservative Catholic men.
 
Dear katybird,
  1. Welcome back to the Church. 😃
  2. Congraduations on the baby.
You said you would like to find s nice single Catholic man. The only way to find nice Catholic man is to hang out with Single Catholics.

I belong to a Catholic ministry called CFC - Singles for Christ. This is not a dating ministry. This ministry is dedicated to the spiritual growth of Single men and women between the age of 22 and 40+. Though, many find their spiritual partner in the ministry.

If you would like some more information, please e-mail or PM me.
 
Hi Katybird,
Welcome to this forum. I am sure you will find kindness and charity here. I have!

I am a single mom with 2 boys. I will agree that while there seems to be a shortage of single Catholic men, I have to hold to my belief that God will put you where you need to be when you are ready ( and when God is ready). If this is God’s will for you. God is NEVER early, but He is NEVER late.

I don’t really bother going out and hunting one down, God will do that for me. Your job is to pray and trust.

Man oh man is the waiting hard - but I need to leave the choice up to God for I have made some bad selections in the past when left on my own.
May God bless you in your journey.
 
Don’t worry about what a conservative Catholic man might think. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
 
Congratulations, Katybird! Life is beautiful! A very young woman in my parish – now 27 – got pregnant by a complete JERK when she was 20. She refused to have an abortion or give up that baby. Her life has not been easy. Four years ago a friend introduced her to a really nice Jewish guy. “Jewish! Why couldn’t God send me a nice Catholic guy?” she lamented. Well, her friend pointed out, she had dated plenty of Catholic guys who were 20 years older than she is and were jerks to boot. So she dates this Jewish guy, who practically does handstands to take her out on weekends. He never presses her for sex: “Like *that *was gonna happen again!” she said. And she couldn’t figure him out. But he’s wonderful. She’s crazy about him. Her little girl is crazy about him. He’s crazy about the little girl. He asks my friend to marry him. He starts coming to church with her – EVERY week. He comes with her to work with the youth group. They get married. She gets pregnant. He’s the one asking about when to baptize the baby . . .

Katy, MIRACLES are God’s stock-in-trade. Don’t be afraid to ask for one!
 
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