A very sad news from me

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One of the parishioners secretly told my aunt that they have been quietly selecting me as one of the potential candidates to become the future priest. My aunt was outraged and screamed at me to stop going to the church. She told me that these people are pulling me in slowly and it is a trap. As a catechumen, I afraid I do not even have the chance of being baptised anymore (I sooo looking forward to my baptism 😣). She wants me to stop there and don’t go further.
 
What do your parents think?

It really is still not her call if you are not a minor. It is not a trap, and no one can force you to become a priest.
 
I don’t understand what you mean by a parishioner talking about you being a future priest candidate? My diocese has cards that parishioners are asked to fill out if they believe they know someone who could be called to the priesthood and they write that person’s info and the vocational director will contact them.

But you are making it sound like they are grooming you to be a priest, this isn’t how it works. I am confused or is this a wording issue of the question?
 
If you want to be baptized you should continue to follow the RCIA program, but I would speak with your priest/formation director on this manner. Don’t take things all at once, go one step at a time
 
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As a catechumen, I afraid I do not even have the chance of being baptised anymore (I sooo looking forward to my baptism 😣). She wants me to stop there and don’t go further.
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If you are an adult then how can she stop you from being baptized or from going to Mass?
 
Your aunt is concerned this religion she probably doesn’t know much about (is this true?) is trying to bring you in all at once. But this isn’t the case. Even if you wanted to be a priest, you would have to wait in some diocese 3 years to apply after converting, then potentially a year of discernment as an aspirant, then 4-6 years of Seminary given your educational background.

Your aunt might have the false conception (from lack of knowledge on this religion) that they want to make you a priest in a year or less. This just isn’t how things go, and if this is the case, she should be informed
 
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In her eyes, I am still a kid.
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That may be. Some parents/guardians still imagine that their offspring are kids when they are 50-60 years old!

I don’t see what this has to do with you becoming Catholic, since you do not need her permission.
 
Perhaps you should back off a bit from these people who are interfering in your life. Don’t share things with them that you wouldn’t want to get back to your family. They’re clearly not helping.
 
I sympathize with you aunt by the way, and I believe you should try to see her point of view. It is not fair for her to stop you from being baptized, but if she is not Catholic this will scare her. In fact, I’d be worried if it didn’t scare her.

I’m catholic, and I’d love to see more priests. However, for somebody to tell your aunt this (when you are going thru RCIA no less) is very inappropriate and it is actually a bit scary. It is also not normal, and it is likely not coming from the RCIA director or priests where you go to church.

Perhaps a recommendation would be to speak about this interaction with your aunt and the cause of it with your RCIA director.

It would be very unfortunate if a stupid comment from a parishioner derails your efforts to become a Catholic.
 
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Wait, why aren’t you living with your mother and not your aunt?
 
My mom’s place is full. All my stuffs are in my original house with my aunt.
 
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One of the parishioners secretly told my aunt that they have been quietly selecting me as one of the potential candidates to become the future priest. My aunt was outraged and screamed at me to stop going to the church. She told me that these people are pulling me in slowly and it is a trap. As a catechumen, I afraid I do not even have the chance of being baptised anymore (I sooo looking forward to my baptism 😣). She wants me to stop there and don’t go further.
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Perhaps, you can reason with her that this woman is perhaps a little “nuts” and that things don’t work through someone selecting you. It’s a long process that you would discern if you ever thought it was your path. Perhaps, you could even contact your Pastor or RCIA director who could call your aunt and explain/alleviate fears.
 
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