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kfarose2585
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Listening to all the secular feminist rhetoric about “a woman’s right to choose” has got me thinking: what if abortion is not about women after all? Sure, it’s about a tiny being that is growing inside a woman’s body, but I am starting to wonder if the focus of this issue should be shifted more to men.
After all, why do most women have abortions? Because thier husband doesn’t want another child, their boyfriend won’t support them, they were raped, their dad will kill them if he finds out that they’re pregnant, the list goes on. I’m not suggesting that women are completely blameless for their own pregnancy (at least, not in the case of consensual sex), but it seems that most of them feel like they have no other way out of a bad situation. I can’t say that I know any woman who, after finding out that she is pregnant, would say, “Oh good! I’ve always wanted an abortion; now I have my chance!”
Yes, women are fully accountable if they choose to have an abortion. I am not implying that they aren’t. And certainly women and men should both be educated about alternatives to abortion, such as adoption. I am simply saying that if not for disrespectful, irresponsible men (who incidentally performed the first medical abortions as less-than-Hippocratic physicians), then abortion would occur much more infrequently.
Perhaps we should focus our energy on teaching the men of the world to take responsibility for the children they father, and to have greater respect for the women in their lives. If this happens, then I bet that far fewer women would have abortions. It is not about a woman’s choice (after all, what mother really wants to kill her baby?); it is about a man’s. When men choose the right thing, women will follow suit.
*Disclaimer: I recognize that abortion is a necessity when both mother and baby’s life is in danger (such as in an ectopic pregnancy). Neither mother, father, nor child is responsible for this, but for the mother to survive and bring forth more children, such an abortion must take place. I am *not advocating the abolition of this sort of abortion, or the condemnation of the parents who must go through this awful procedure.
After all, why do most women have abortions? Because thier husband doesn’t want another child, their boyfriend won’t support them, they were raped, their dad will kill them if he finds out that they’re pregnant, the list goes on. I’m not suggesting that women are completely blameless for their own pregnancy (at least, not in the case of consensual sex), but it seems that most of them feel like they have no other way out of a bad situation. I can’t say that I know any woman who, after finding out that she is pregnant, would say, “Oh good! I’ve always wanted an abortion; now I have my chance!”
Yes, women are fully accountable if they choose to have an abortion. I am not implying that they aren’t. And certainly women and men should both be educated about alternatives to abortion, such as adoption. I am simply saying that if not for disrespectful, irresponsible men (who incidentally performed the first medical abortions as less-than-Hippocratic physicians), then abortion would occur much more infrequently.
Perhaps we should focus our energy on teaching the men of the world to take responsibility for the children they father, and to have greater respect for the women in their lives. If this happens, then I bet that far fewer women would have abortions. It is not about a woman’s choice (after all, what mother really wants to kill her baby?); it is about a man’s. When men choose the right thing, women will follow suit.
*Disclaimer: I recognize that abortion is a necessity when both mother and baby’s life is in danger (such as in an ectopic pregnancy). Neither mother, father, nor child is responsible for this, but for the mother to survive and bring forth more children, such an abortion must take place. I am *not advocating the abolition of this sort of abortion, or the condemnation of the parents who must go through this awful procedure.
