abortion

[SoUnhappy80]

Can someone please give me the name of some boards or somwhere where I can go for help with a previous abortion? I don’t think this is the place for me and I thought maybe here people would know of some sites. I feel terrible about it, and if I try to talk about it on these boards (one in particular), all I get is rude comments such as:

I am a wimp for not being able to handle my decision

That if I feel upset when someone uses a graphic term to describe how I am a wimp and can’t handle it, then they take no responsibiliy in what they said in their “mere” words - it’s all coming from me

Hey, don’t get upset, you brought it up

If I say from experience i believe the best way to handle protesting is not screaming/throwing things at women at clinics, I hear that the “nice” way doens’t work anymore

I found out that some board members really don’t care about the mothers (only what they are about to do), but they don’t get that the mothers have a situation and if they get help, maybe they too would not make that wrong choice - but who cares about the mother in their opinion.

And if I say that every woman has a situation, then suddenly I am promoting abortion (twisting what I am meaning)

If I get upset when someone says something, I get jumped on for not being able to “handle their opinion”

I hear things implying these women are all “loose” and motel hopping you know whats (my term, not theirs, as mine is much nicer).

That women who have had abortions are barely human, hedonistic, and self-righteous

 

[Tietjen]

Can someone please give me the name of some boards or somwhere where I can go for help with a previous abortion? I don’t think this is the place for me and I thought maybe here people would know of some sites. I feel terrible about it, and if I try to talk about it on these boards (one in particular), all I get is rude comments …

I’m sorry that you experienced this. I haven’t seen it, but I can certainly understand you being upset if you have.

Try this website: Rachel’s Vineyard. I have heard very good things about it and they have online forums as well. God bless.

 

[Mighty_Q]

Can someone please give me the name of some boards or somwhere where I can go for help with a previous abortion? I don’t think this is the place for me and I thought maybe here people would know of some sites. I feel terrible about it, and if I try to talk about it on these boards (one in particular), all I get is rude comments such as:

I am a wimp for not being able to handle my decision

That if I feel upset when someone uses a graphic term to describe how I am a wimp and can’t handle it, then they take no responsibiliy in what they said in their “mere” words - it’s all coming from me

Hey, don’t get upset, you brought it up

If I say from experience i believe the best way to handle protesting is not screaming/throwing things at women at clinics, I hear that the “nice” way doens’t work anymore

I found out that some board members really don’t care about the mothers (only what they are about to do), but they don’t get that the mothers have a situation and if they get help, maybe they too would not make that wrong choice - but who cares about the mother in their opinion.

And if I say that every woman has a situation, then suddenly I am promoting abortion (twisting what I am meaning)

If I get upset when someone says something, I get jumped on for not being able to “handle their opinion”

I hear things implying these women are all “loose” and motel hopping you know whats (my term, not theirs, as mine is much nicer).

That women who have had abortions are barely human, hedonistic, and self-righteous

You’re in my prayers.

 

[SoUnhappy80]

I’m sorry that you experienced this. I haven’t seen it, but I can certainly understand you being upset if you have.

Try this website: Rachel’s Vineyard. I have heard very good things about it and they have online forums as well. God bless.

Thank you - I did not know they had an online forum. I am going to check that out. Thank you so much.

 

[SoUnhappy80]

You’re in my prayers.

Thank you, I’ll take as much of that as I can get . Thank you for listening to my rant, it’s just that some of those things were getting to me and I was having an “episode” - (when I am feeling really low and hurt - comes and goes).

 

[1ke]

You need more than an online forum, you need healing.

Rachel’s Vineyard, Project Rachel, Beauty For Ashes, Silent No More and other groups provide post-abortion healing retreats and/or counseling and advocacy.

Please contact one of these organization for help. Also, you can look up the local crisis pregnancy centers in your yellow pages under “abortion alternatives”. They will know of post-abortion support groups in your local area.

Please get help. God loves you, and you can heal from this.

Online, the website www.standupgirl.com might be an option for you. They have a community forum, but I have never posted there so I don’t know what level of support you will get there.

 

[1ke]

I also think you should probably not post on the moral theology or social justice board on abortion topics. Many times people here can be insensitive-- and I’m probably one of them-- because usually people are posting from an abstract, theoretical debate position. Not a personal one.

This is personal to you. You are living it. So, it can’t just be a debate for you without emotion.

I think maybe after you have really dealt with your abortion experience and healed from it, you can enter these sorts of discussions with a different mentality and get your point across without these people upsetting you.

And, perhaps you will find a calling to minister to women in crisis pregnancies at your local pregnancy center or even at the abortion clinics. Your witness is a powerful one.

 

[SoUnhappy80]

I also think you should probably not post on the moral theology or social justice board on abortion topics. Many times people here can be insensitive-- and I’m probably one of them-- because usually people are posting from an abstract, theoretical debate position. Not a personal one.

This is personal to you. You are living it. So, it can’t just be a debate for you without emotion.

I think maybe after you have really dealt with your abortion experience and healed from it, you can enter these sorts of discussions with a different mentality and get your point across without these people upsetting you.

And, perhaps you will find a calling to minister to women in crisis pregnancies at your local pregnancy center or even at the abortion clinics. Your witness is a powerful one.

Thanks 1ke - I thought I would write on here since it’s the morality board and thought maybe posters would have good ideas - which they definately did. It was from another board, but I’d rather just forget it . Thank you a lot and I acually have felt a calling to work in chrisis centers. I am embarassed though to say what I’ve done - I will have to look into it since I have felt like it’s something I could do. But I wanted to say thank you for your post. It means a lot.

 

[teachccd]

Thank you, I’ll take as much of that as I can get . Thank you for listening to my rant, it’s just that some of those things were getting to me and I was having an “episode” - (when I am feeling really low and hurt - comes and goes).

Christ is the Master Listener…rant all you want! If we are human we all have something to rant about and regrets to place at the foot of His cross. God loves you and you are in my prayers. Keep me in yours…teachccd

 

[hasikelee]

You are not a wimp. Your reactions are a sign of trauma. Post-abortive issues are real and you deserve help and healing.

As with any person who has experienced pain and trauma, stay away from triggers. Browsing an online forum with debates on abortion can be not only upsetting to you but can also further traumatize you.

Please check out Rachel’s Vineyard as they are trained and interested in helping post-abortive women. You will be in a safe environment where you can heal.

 

[Island_Oak]

To the OP: You are WELCOME here. This is exactly where you belong!!! You have obviously learned much from your painful experience. While all of us sin, and most of us hit more than one grave sin in a lifetime, we all have the ability to learn and return to a life in which we can be at peace. THAT is one of the greatest gifts of our Catholic faith in practice. Please look into some of the resources cited here–they may prove to be of great help to you as they have to so many others. Blessings to you in your journey.

 

[buc_fan33]

Hi, and I am so sorry for what you are going through. Please know of my prayers. I agree with the others who have posted on here that what you really need is to heal. And, believe me, however much you want to be healed, it cannot possibly be as much as Christ wants to heal you. So, if you have not done so, please go to Confession. (I’m assuming you are Catholic at this point.) Run if you have to. If your parish, like mine, only has one time for Confession and it is rather inconvenient, call your local priest and make an appointment. You don’t need to give your name or anything. You can ask that he meet you at church at say, 3:00, and that you will be a few minutes late in order to make an anonymous confession. The healing power of the sacraments should never be underestimated. If you have already made a Confession, trust in Jesus’ mercy. Jesus forgives us, but often times we find it hard to forgive ourselves and that is exactly what Satan wants. Your heavenly Father will never, ever, stop loving you.

Secondly, check out Project Rachel. I have a number of priest friends who are trained counselors with Project Rachel. They have been trained to help women just like yourself who are also trying to heal from an abortion. If you want to, you could even confess to them.

Finally, keep in mind the words of our Lord to St. Faustina Kowalska, “Even if a sinner had on his or her soul all of the sins ever committed in the history of the world, they would be nothing but a drop of water compared to the ocean of my mercy!”

You will be in my prayers.

 

[A_dollars_worth]

That women who have had abortions…

Hi, May I ask you a sensitive question? If there was no Roe v Wade case like now would you have made a different decision?

I will include you and your baby in my prayers.