Abuse

[ChristheArchang]

My friend (lets call him John Doe) is haveing issues in everyday life. I noticed for several weeks, that he wasn’t sleeping to good. Something was bothering him, and i couldn’t figure out what it was.

Last night he and some friends came over and we had a party. We were having a good time, and everything. And we noticed he was starting to cry (he is a very masculian, tough guy). No one could figure out what was going on.

I followed him to the other room. We sat on the floor and he started balling (crying). After a very intense 1-1.5 hour, I finally figured out that his girlfriend was being abused.

She lives 1000 miles away. Her parents are divoreced and one is dead. If she leaves her mom, then she may never see John again.

I told him to pray, and he said he would try.
What can i do in the meantime?

 

[paulCT]

I’m really sorry to hear about your friend’s problems. It can be very difficult to want to help someone, especially if there is a large distance between everyone.

Who is abusing the girlfriend and how old is she? Is the abuse physical, sexual or both?

I admit that I’m not an expert, but it’s really important to get the girlfriend out on that environment immediately. Can you offer the girlfriend temporary shelter, or find a women’s shelter that she can go to?

I’m providing some resources that may be able better assist you and your friend.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline can be reached 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 800-799-SAFE (7233), 800-787-3224 (TTY). Spanish speakers are available. When you call, you will first hear a recording and may have to hold. Hotline staff offer crisis intervention and referrals. If requested, they connect women to shelters and can send out written information. For more information, visit their web site at www.ndvh.org

The National Sexual Assault Hotline can be reached 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 800-656-4673. When you call, you will hear a menu and can choose #1 to talk to a counselor. You will then be connected to a counselor in your area who can help you. For more information, visit their web site at www.rainn.org.

I hope this is helpful. I will keep everyone in my prayers.