Act of Charity- or Occasion of Sin?

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I’ve done this all the times before, and this isn’t in my daily-life. But when i choose to carpool with certain family members because I don’t see them often, they sometimes play impure music or mainstream music (which is usually immoral), and I usually carpool with them because I couldn’t imagine saying no, that would make them ask a lot of questions or be confused and even offended maybe- since we are close. To clarify, i make the effort to not sing or dance or whatever while it’s playing. I do this to not offend anyone or cause confusion. What should I do the next time?
 
If you’re so close, how about telling them you don’t care for that music and why you don’t like it, and suggest they turn off the music so you can catch up with conversation instead, since you don’t see them often?

Tell them you’d much rather hear about their lives than listen to silly music. Most people are very happy to talk about themselves to you 🙂
 
Just have a gentle discussion with them and if they don’t agree, it would be better to stop carpooling with them. We want to avoid any occasion of sin. They need to know in a respectful way. If they can’t honor that then as hard as it is, you need to carpool elsewhere.
 
I don’t understand how that would be considered an act of charity. It also doesn’t sound like this music is an occasion of sin for you. Unless you find some “music” to be so annoying that you are tempted to open the vehicle’s door and try a tuck and roll into the roadside ditch at 55 mph.
 
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If having the music on or not is beyond your control then I can’t see how it would be a sin. Earplugs?
 
If you don’t like the music, it is totally fine to ask the driver to either change the channel or turn it off. You can politely say you don’t care for a particular style of music, artist, or song. That shouldn’t be a big issue. The last time I was on a road trip with family there was lots of good natured arguments over what to listen to.

In terms of it being an occasion of sin…is it? Do these songs bring you to the verge of committing a sin (impure fantasies for example)? I know everyone is different, but I’ve rarely been driven to sin by music (music videos could be a different matter).
 
But do the songs contain things profane against the Immaculate Heart of Mary and the Blessed Dacrament?
 
Are they blasphemous in nature? I suppose some could be. Again, there’s no reason not to ask your family member to switch to another song or to simply talk instead.
 
Truth be told, music does not hurt me that much. I know, there are certainly many Catholics who have very high concern about listening to the right music or the wrong ones.

On the practical side, if you do not like the music, maybe next time around you can bring your own music and ask it to be played. But that maybe bringing it too far, don’t ya think?

I think the suggestion to have a good conversation is a good one. It is fruitful and most of all for you, you can do away with the music, which you do not like. But what about the next time? Eventually you will be found out.

Be careful about criticising the music, unless you are good at making it not offensive to your hosts. Of course, it depends on the level of your relationship with them but as you said you wanted to be ‘charitable’, then I guess it is still quite superficial where candid suggestion can be met with much disapproval.

I think that much you can do, as you are in another people’s car.
 
No, but wouldn’t other elements make the music sinful (like impure?).
 
This strikes me as a silly thing to worry about, but if it really bothers you it’s fine to ask them to turn it off.
 
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