Addicted to pornography, need help

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hello there. i am finally realizing i have an addiction to certain types of pornography. nothing illegal. but it is still problematic and i know it is an issue i have to confront.

i am meeting with a therapist next week about it. I have confessed to this to a priest. But i am really afraid I am going to give into my temptation today.

Does anyone have any advice beyond prayer? Not that prayer is a bad thing (obviously) but I need something very immediate and tangible.

I live in Philly if that helps. Thank you.
 
Pray the Rosary. Take a cold shower- major turn-off. Get out of the house- you can’t really fall to this sin in public. Get to Mass if you can- The Euchariat is bread for our journey and can help you stay pure. Reccieve Reconciliation frequently.
 
I am at my office. Trust me, there are ways for me to engage. Thank you though.
 
See if you can find a mass during your lunch hour. Or visit one of the many shrines that must be available in Philly.

Also, keep some holy cards with the Blessed Mother, the Holy Family, Sacred Heart of Jesus or any Saint you are particularly drawn to, taped around the edges of your computer monitor. Look at them and then decide if you want to view porn.

Put an app on your phone for prayers if your phone is the problem. Honestly, get a flip phone if need be.
 
I deal with the same issue. It is very difficult with our phones having access to the internet.

If you have an android phone (and possibly Iphone, not sure), Spin Browser has a built in filtering system. If you find sites that they don’t filter, you can email them and they’ll check the site out. I’ve found it to be very helpful, though I need to find a good way to lock down my other browsers if I want it to be completely effective.

Now, if you’re looking at stuff on your work computer, just keep in mind that they likely can see where you’re browsing to. They may not actively monitor, but all internet traffic is readable. That fact alone, never mind that it could cost me my livelihood and ability to care for my family, has always been more than enough to keep me clean on work computes.

If you are married, or if you are part of a men’s support group, Covenant Eyes in an excellent program that not only provides a filter, but also sends a list of any inappropriate sites you go to to an accountability partner.

If there are particular apps / sites that cause you trouble, uninstall them or block those sites through your router.

Above all, try to find a men’s support group in your area. The longest periods of sobriety I’ve had are when I’m attending one. If you’re in the Dallas-Fort Worth area (Texas), my group is called St. Augustine’s Men’s Purity group. If not, then look around for a group in your area.

Let’s see…

Integrity Restored and Fight The New Drug are both excellent sites. ( I can’t recall them offhand, a google search should get you there.)

… There are other sites dedicated to helping people overcome this addiction. Even non-religious people have started recognizing pornography as an issue. There’s a group call NoFap that discusses non-religious tools and groups you can use to help get clean.

Hopefully something in this will help.

As always, prayer is the strongest tool in your arsenal.
 
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I deleted the account for what I used for my viewing. Please pray I have the strength to avoid.
 
I have Internet on the touch screen mobile phone.
All important and interesting issues for me I solve with the help of the phone.
You can use a large computer in a public or student library, and at home do not use the Internet.
It all depends on willpower.
Pornography destroys a lot of souls, with very dire consequences. This bottomless bucket of lust, which will always leave you forever sexually hungry and devastated.
It’s a virus that turns people into freaks and losers.
 
Prayer and frequent use of the sacraments will be your greatest allies. This isn’t a quick fix thing. Like weight loss, it probably took some time to get overweight. It’s going to take time to get rid of it. Here’s what I did to break this sin.

Daily Rosary.
A set amount of time for daily mental prayer.
Weekly confession, whether I had mortal sin to confess or not. Just knowing I committed to weekly confession was often enough to stop the temptation.
Cut out all social media and a lot of TV.
Fasting and mortification.
Tried to get to one extra Mass a week.
One hour of Adoration a week.

If this seems like overkill you should reavluate how serious this sin is and the butterfly effect it has in your life and those around you. And after less than 3 months of this I was able to stop the weekly confessions for this particular behavior.
 
I flipped through an old book on my bookshelf called “Eros and the Jews”
For some Jewish theologians of antiquity - masturbation( destruction of seed) is equivalent to idolatry.
Anyone who looks at the little finger of a woman is as if he looked at ( her genitals)
Another Rabbi says " Whoever emits semen nonprocreatively deserves capital punishment " . Similar , the biblical verse “your hands are filled with blood” is taken to refer to those who “fornicate ( that is, masturbate) with their hands.”
 
I work in IT, and we do know what you are doing on your work computer. Unless it’s a security risk, though, we generally don’t have time to snitch to your boss or HR…but if they ask, we will provide logs. That should be a motivator.

Another thing that helped me kick the habit was to look at the woman’s eyes while she’s performing. See how dead she looks. Though she probably (likely?) came from a broken family, she does have a mother, a father, siblings. Think of them and how they probably feel knowing their loved one had to…or thought they had to…resort to this to make a living.
 
In “Zohar” , masturbation is intercourse with female demons…
In “Zohar” carries the Talmudic structures against male masturbation to an even greater extreme - as equivalent to sex with a forbidden woman, both being forms of “destruction of seed.” While all other sins , including even murder , are susceptible to repentance , masturbation is beyond atonement: “What is the reason? They kill other people, but this one literally kills his own sons.”…
(David Biale. “Eros and the Jews”)
 
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