Adoption parents--Abortion

[Tradcat89]

I was curious to know what the parents of adopted children think of abortion. If for example you couldn’t have children, do you still feel abortion is ok…or does the fact that you couldn’t have children of your own make you take a different position? This is merely just a thought in passing that I thought I would get some feedback on.

 

[1ke]

While there may be some leaning towards the pro-life side, I don’t believe that being unable to have children and deciding to adopt necessarily influences one’s view on abortion.

One of my colleagues who is “pro-choice” just adopted, she and her husband tried for 10 years to have a baby, and she had numerous miscarriages-- but it has not changed her “pro-choice” stance.

 

[Jermosh]

My adopted son was from my sister. She was going to have a abortion, but I pleaded with her and eventually changed her mind. But I also have my own children. But I am Pro-life, but on the pasaphist side of the issue.

 

[Popcorn]

I was in an infertile marriage, we divorced. That was only part of the problem. I’ve since remarried. We were able to have two children soon afterwards. At that time we were not really living a Catholic life. I used birth control for 4 or 5 years. We became very active in our church and decided to adopt a child. In the middle of the adoption, I found out that birth control was a sin (I’m a convert). We stopped using contraception of any kind. We have had 2 more children since the adoption. We now have 5 children. I am very much pro-life! I’m so thankful for my conversion to the Catholic Church! I love my life!

 

[leschornmom]

I have a veiw from a different angle. My husband and his F-twin brother are adopted. They were born in NY in 1977 only 2 or 3 years after it was legalized agian. He tells me often how thankful he is that in such a time that (new legalization thrill you might say) his 16 yr old mother chose mot to have an abortion.

My mother-in Law tells of how they tried to have children for 8 yrs and then it took another 6 (I think) to abopt them. She can’t understand why any Woman would choose to give up a baby after it took her so long to get hers!

26 years now… My husband just recieved a notice that both parties (him and his birth mother) have registered on line so that they can meet face to face. When people ask him what he’s going to say when he meets her for the 1st time he simply says “Thank you!”

 

[wisdom_3_5]

I was pro-abortion up until the time I tried to conceive and couldn’t. Trouble was I didn’t know what abortion really was until I started looking at pregnancy books and imagining my baby etc. So my infertility changed my outlook on abortion.

My outlook on abortion intensified when we started looking into adoption. The waiting period was very long (at least two to three years for an infant). Statistics showed that 10% of the population was infertile. I came to believe (and still do) that abortion was affecting my life.

We went on to adopt two girls from China, a country where forced abortions are the norm. We feel that our daughters birth-parents were courageous to bring them to term.

I suppose in the end it depends on the person and how the struggle with infertility affects them. The many people that I have met that have strggled with infertility have all been pro-life.