Adulterous Remarriage / Children

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I see a lot of judgment but no one has refuted my Biblical References - where it is the MARRIAGE that is the adultery. See Luke 16:18 Jesus own words said WHOSOEVER MARRIES a divorced lady is committing the Adultery.

And again Saint Paul Romans 7: "if she joins (“genetia” in Greek) with another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress.

Living like Brother and Sister in same house is hardly forsaking the Adultery and not true repentance.

It is also not Magisterium so totally open to debate. Sorry but you have judgment I have Scripture. Please prove me wrong based on Scripture and not your own personal views.
 
If I understand correctly, your wife (i.e., your current wife via civil marriage) was previously divorced and her husband is still living. She can have her former marriage examined by a church tribunal, to see if it was valid or invalid. If it was invalid, she can receive a declaration of nullity (commonly called an annulment). The declaration of nullity would allow you and your current civil-law wife to marry validly in the Catholic Church, because she would never have been validly married before. That would be the ideal outcome, right? I would advise you to speak to your pastor about having your wife’s first marriage examined.

I also would advise you NOT to separate from your current wife, because that would be doing damage both to her and to your children. At very least, I would suggest that you get good counseling from a priest about your family situation, before making any rash decisions.
 
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Yes that makes sense about the grounds for nullity. However, remaining Married is in direct contradition to Jesus teaching - see Luke 16:18 and Paul Romans 6:9, 1 Corinthians 7:10, Romans 6:9-11.

The ONLY grounds for remarriage while the first ex-spouse lives is DEATH. No other exceptions stated in Scripture.
 
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First thing, speak to your priest.

Begin to explain to your legal wife (awkward phrase, I know) that your faith is important to you. We spouses will move mountains for the person we love simply out of respect for them. Ask her to do this for you.

I’d look over the resources at Catholicsdivorce.com and for the “Beloved” marriage series on Formed.org, watch them with your lady.

Your promise is to raise the kids Catholic to the best of your ability. You do not have to force baptism or force them to go to Mass.

Your job is to let the family see that going to Mass makes you a better husband and father. Make it so that they say to their friends “wow, you really need to get your husband/dad to go to Mass because it brings out so much love and happiness and peace!!”

Go to Mass this weekend. After Mass bring home a favorite treat, flowers, come home loving and full of joy.
 
Thank-you my current Civil Wife is Anti-Catholic, but the suggestions are good to see. appreciated.
 
All the more reason to show her that being Catholic is a very good thing. Be love, that is the job Christ gave us. Love her more than you love yourself. Lay down your life for her. Ask only for one hour per week in return, so you can go to Mass.
 
Bear in mind that in the eyes of your wife, you are the one who has changed the goalposts with regards to your marriage, the way you wish to raise your children and your lifestyle as a whole. Give her some time to get used to the situation.
 
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Yes that makes sense about the grounds for nullity. However, remaining Married is in direct contradition to Jesus teaching - see Luke 16:18 and Paul Romans 6:9, 1 Corinthians 7:10, Romans 6:9-11.

The ONLY grounds for remarriage while the first ex-spouse lives is DEATH. No other exceptions stated in Scriptur
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Why do you want to return to the Church when you don’t agree with her teachings on annullment?
 
I am pretty sure you can’t remarry since she is your wife.
 
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The ONLY grounds for remarriage while the first ex-spouse lives is DEATH. No other exceptions stated in Scripture.
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Then why did you marry while your first wife was alive.

You are doing what the Pharisees used to do

Why do you have no empathy for your wife.

God. Teaches mercy and love. Not this
 
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