Advice on headstone epitaph

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Please could I have your opinions on the wording of the following epitaph for the projected headstone for my wife and myself:

UNITED FOREVER IN LOVE THROUGH CHRIST

Is there anything inappropriate or missing in that text? - I don’t want to end up in a situation where the priest would reject it.
 
Why would a priest have anything to say about what you choose? 🤔
 
I’ve never, ever known a priest, pastor or minister to have any say as to what goes on a headstone.
 
.Hmmm. Well in the US, it wouldn’t be a problem.

I trust you and your wife have settled where you will each be buried then?
 
Thanks for the replies. Yes, we have settled on the location and we both like that epitaph. Hopefully, it will not be needed for 20 years or more (we are in our 60ies) but we are organising everything now, including headstone engraving.
 
You need to check with the cemetery you are planning to be buried in. If it is a Catholic cemetery, they may have some rules for what can go on your headstone. The one where my parents are buried pretty much only allows lines from Scripture and from approved Catholic prayers.
 
Wow! You learn something new every day! 🙂
They would be appalled at some of the headstones in (non-Catholic cemeteries in) the US then! 😉
 
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This is interesting to me… so, in NZ, everyone needs to have the approval of their priest or minister for the headstones? This is something I hadn’t worried about here in the US.
 
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This is something I hadn’t worried about here in the US.
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If you are buried in a Catholic cemetery in US, then the cemetery, which is usually connected somehow with the diocese, will handle the vetting of tombstone types and inscriptions. Usually if you go to a dealer who serves that cemetery a lot (there are generally a couple such dealers, usually family businesses) they will know all about what is and isn’t allowed, and will explain it all to you.

If you are buried in some other cemetery, not Catholic, it’s still a good idea to check with the cemetery to see what they will allow. Again, the company selling you the headstone will usually run interference for you and do that checking, or if they provide a lot of tombstones there they will know what is and isn’t allowed.

It often varies by section; for example, if you’re in a certain section you can have a bigger or more unusual stone. Other sections have more limitations.
 
so, in NZ, everyone needs to have the approval of their priest or minister for the headstones?
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No; in fact everything is rather more easy-going than elsewhere.

That was not the meaning of my question. I just wanted to double-check that the wording I have concocted for our epitaph makes theological sense.

So far, all the reactions are positive; and I thank you all.
 
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There are cemeteries that encourage “creative” headstones for a goodly amount, in order to encourage folks to come and be buried there.

One of my favorites is Alan Freed’s headstone. Alan Freed was the famous Cleveland disc jockey credited with coining the term “rock n’ roll” and popularizing the music. It’s a life-size granite jukebox. The design was suggested by “Little Steven” Van Zandt.

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