Advice on my Mom’s situation

[Kyle2253]

I’ll try to make this short. So my mom and dad were only married for a few years before they divorced (I was very young and have no memory of them being together). Fast forward a couple of years after their divorce and both of my parents are remarried.

My mom and step-dad were together for around 10 years I believe. They recently (within the last 6 months) got divorced. She had been dating another man and they got a house together. They are both Catholic and understand that it is a sin for them to be living together. Recently, they got engaged.

I need advice on how to handle the situation from my point. My mom, as far as I know, has not gotten an annulment for either marriage. I have tried to tell her that I don’t agree with what she is doing and that she is moving too fast. She keeps telling me that she needs to do what is right for her and what makes her happy. I’m also frustrated with the fact that she responds to these situations by saying that she believes that God will understand and forgive her.

She is my mom and I obviously love her and want what’s best for her. Can anyone offer any advice on what I should do? Prayers would also be greatly appreciated! Thank you all and God bless!

 

[1ke]

There isn’t anything for you to do. It is always hard when friends and family know something is wrong and do it anyway.

Love your mother. Treat her with kindness. That’s all you need to do. It is not your place to admonish your mother or to harp on what she already knows to be wrong.

Pray that she will pursue an annulment, pray that she will talk to her pastor. If she asks your advice, then give it-- go talk to your pastor. Otherwise, stay out of it.

 

[CoffeeCatholic]

I swear I thought I read this exact post a few months ago??? Perhaps there is another almost similar. Either way - it’s your mother’s life and decision. She knows you don’t approve, she knows you ‘don’t agree’ with what she’s doing but she’s an adult and you’ve had your say. At this point you need to accept her decisions and either be there to love her or not. But that’s up to you.

 

[Kyle2253]

I believe that God is merciful. I also believe that God is just and we know what the Church believes about these situations. I have no way of knowing how God will judge anyone. We do know, however, what God tells us to do (and not do).

 

[Buks]

I guess it would be fair, and maybe even wise, to share with a parent early on (and not repetitively) how a situation may have an effect on oneself. For example, if it’s going to be uncomfortable to be in the company of the new husband, then at least the parent won’t be taken by surprise if you’ll have said something. And that would not be telling the parent what they should do - just an honest sharing of a response that you may find difficult to overcome. In any case, despite the obvious flaw in beliefs, maybe you’ll find he has a good side and a likable personality, which may make your life easier, even if it’s not an excuse for their mistake.