Advice or guidance pertaining to past relationship

[miaax]

I’m really confused and even more lost right now in my life. 2 years have passed since I last heard from this guy that I really liked, I could tell he was different by how he treated me, we both were brought up as Catholics and had the same values in that sense. I admired that about him, but I also noticed he was going through some things and kept his distance from me as we dated, I broke it off because I was going to college at the time and I didn’t want it to affect me, which it already was, 2 months past and he tries again with me but after calling me and discussing all these things he wants to do with me and explains how he sees so much good in me, I didn’t hear from him, no explanation as into why he did what he did, I couldn’t understand like why? After calling me and wanting to make things better or try and be with me he ends it. Now after 2 years I get a message from him but knowing why he messaged me was because my sister got in touch with him and told him about me and how I’ve been going through a lot in my life and how he affected me, which yes at the time he did but I learned to move on and heal with my faith helping me through it. He called me recently and explained himself which just seemed one sided like why he left me without telling me his reasons at the time was because he was going through a lot and didn’t want it to affect me, and he thought that was the best decision, but it wasn’t because it really did affect me, and he went on to say he joined the military because he needed something good in his life which I already knew from before, he mentioned he was going to be deployed soon, I was happy for him but it just felt off having to hear from him after 2 years and I know the only reason he contacted me was because of my sister which makes it even more upsetting. He asked about me and how I was doing or what I plan to do in my life and I’m just like why? When he never wanted to be there for me, I’m just really confused like I was doing good and now that he called me I can’t seem to understand why it happened this way. We ended with our goodbyes and mentioned we both would pray for each other but now I’ve been thinking he might call me again or maybe he will message me but I know I can’t think this way because it will only cause more pain on me but it’s just hard and I’m lost, I was doing good and now he came into my life for what reason…

 

[Tis_Bearself]

I went through something similar in my life when I was in my mid-20s.

I think it is best if you just file this under “He’s Not That Into You” and move on.

If indeed he called you at the behest of your sister, then just accept that as your sister trying to do something nice for you, and as the young man trying to expiate the guilt he likely felt about breaking up with you.

I know it is frustrating and can create a lot of hurt and upset when somebody in whom you had a strong interest would behave like this. Because you know they don’t really want to be there for you, so their pretty words mean very little. We must work hard to be patient with such people but it’s best to not make them part of our lives. Find another guy and soon you will forget this one. Good luck and God bless.

 

[Annie]

You could block his number and his email address so that whether he tries or not, you don’t have to think about it because he is blocked.

And every time he floats into your head, say a very short prayer (God, help me! Or similar) and move along.