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daughteroftheking
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this is going to be kind of a long one but i’m going to do my best to summarize it, i just need some opinions.
i had been bestfriends with this woman for the past 6 years. she’s a catholic, as well as a single mother of 6 children (ages 11-2) with two seperate child father’s and is unmarried. i have always loved her, even more so as she talked to me over the years about catholicism and why i should consider it. one day i felt a calling from God, and realized i was meant to be a part of the catholic church, and i’ll be starting RCIA this fall thanks to her. anyway, her two youngest children’s father (her ex boyfriend) is a raging alcoholic. he has been since i’ve known her, but over the years it’s gotten progressively worse. countless times he has gotten wasted, and then physically (not always) and verbally abused her as well as the other children (whom are not his. he’s never physically abused the kids, but has verbally). i’ve been a witness to it a handful of times, where he goes into a rampage and begins punching holes in walls and breaking things and calling her a list of horrible names. i’ve never witnessed anything like it before, i have stuck with her through it all. i have cried with her, prayed with her, and given all advice i could possibly think of on how to get away from this guy. she would always ask me for advice on what to do, and all i could ever suggest was that she keep him out of her house and away from the kids until he decides to get help with his drinking. she would tell me that she was done with him, and that she wouldn’t ever let him back in, but he always came right back. the cycle is the same everytime. he gets drunk, causes harm, dips out to his parents, she says she’s done, and then one day he’s right back at her house and the cycle repeats. she had a minivan to transport her children around, until one day it finally died on her. once the church heard about it, a bunch of members chipped in and they provided her with a brand new van. not even a week into her having the van, her alcoholic ex boyfriend kicked a giant dent into it during a fight. it’s been years of the same thing and it’s really taken an emotional toll on me. i feel helpless. i don’t know how to get her out of this dark hole she keeps putting herself in and when i told her i needed to step back from it for my own sake she completely slandered me, cursing me, calling me every nasty name she could think of. i finally blocked her number so she’d stop attacking me and later unblocked her. then this morning woke up to a text from her saying “you’re unbelievable. f*ck you. forever”. am i doing the right thing by stepping away? do i confront her, or just continue to keep my silence and stay in prayer? she makes me feel like i’m not doing the “catholic thing” by walking away from her and almost uses the faith to guilt me into staying. how should i handle this?
i had been bestfriends with this woman for the past 6 years. she’s a catholic, as well as a single mother of 6 children (ages 11-2) with two seperate child father’s and is unmarried. i have always loved her, even more so as she talked to me over the years about catholicism and why i should consider it. one day i felt a calling from God, and realized i was meant to be a part of the catholic church, and i’ll be starting RCIA this fall thanks to her. anyway, her two youngest children’s father (her ex boyfriend) is a raging alcoholic. he has been since i’ve known her, but over the years it’s gotten progressively worse. countless times he has gotten wasted, and then physically (not always) and verbally abused her as well as the other children (whom are not his. he’s never physically abused the kids, but has verbally). i’ve been a witness to it a handful of times, where he goes into a rampage and begins punching holes in walls and breaking things and calling her a list of horrible names. i’ve never witnessed anything like it before, i have stuck with her through it all. i have cried with her, prayed with her, and given all advice i could possibly think of on how to get away from this guy. she would always ask me for advice on what to do, and all i could ever suggest was that she keep him out of her house and away from the kids until he decides to get help with his drinking. she would tell me that she was done with him, and that she wouldn’t ever let him back in, but he always came right back. the cycle is the same everytime. he gets drunk, causes harm, dips out to his parents, she says she’s done, and then one day he’s right back at her house and the cycle repeats. she had a minivan to transport her children around, until one day it finally died on her. once the church heard about it, a bunch of members chipped in and they provided her with a brand new van. not even a week into her having the van, her alcoholic ex boyfriend kicked a giant dent into it during a fight. it’s been years of the same thing and it’s really taken an emotional toll on me. i feel helpless. i don’t know how to get her out of this dark hole she keeps putting herself in and when i told her i needed to step back from it for my own sake she completely slandered me, cursing me, calling me every nasty name she could think of. i finally blocked her number so she’d stop attacking me and later unblocked her. then this morning woke up to a text from her saying “you’re unbelievable. f*ck you. forever”. am i doing the right thing by stepping away? do i confront her, or just continue to keep my silence and stay in prayer? she makes me feel like i’m not doing the “catholic thing” by walking away from her and almost uses the faith to guilt me into staying. how should i handle this?
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