AFFECTION Opinions/Comments

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Hi everyone,
I just wanted to know if there are other WOMEN like me in this forum when it comes to not liking being bombarded constantly with affection by someone you are in a relationship with? And since this is a family forum…This question goes to the married gals as well.

Am I normal to not like affection being shown to me constantly? As a woman I like holding hands, a hug here and there… that is romantic to me… BUT, I cannot stand when I am always subjected to constant affection.

I mean is it necessary that every place I go to that I must hold hands or walk arm and arm ALL THE TIME?

Is it wrong to want a breather from being shown affection constantly?

I know GUYS will think this is yet another reason why men can’t understand women LOL

In a past relationship my ex would constantly want to hug and be arm and arm all the time… It was cute at first, then got to be annoying that he was like this even as I was driving the car at times! Not to mention the looks I would get from other drivers. LOL

I know… some will say “Awww… he was just showing you he likes you ALOT”… But, I guess you have to be in my shoes to know why I felt this way.

I am ROMANTIC to the core and romance to me is more than holding hands and hugging… A man can know my likes (ex. books) and get me a book as a surprise and this will touch me deeply since he actually was listening to me in our conversations about some of the things I love in life.

Anyway… I may get bombed with virtual TOMATOES and BOO’ing… but, I am jumping right into this new thread anxiously awaiting your opinions and comments. lol

God bless all
 
Maryam

I think it’s okay to not want CONSTANT affection. My husband always likes to touch or grab me when he walks by. When we are walking, he’ll take my hand. I try to indulge him somewhat, but it’s just not in my nature to be all touchy feely all the time. My mother, grand mother and great grand mother were all like this too.

I must say, if dh stopped being so “affectionate”, I might wonder what’s going on:hmmm:.

My advice would be to be “affectionate” first sometimes. That way, he’s not always making the first move, and it might decrease unwanted “affectionate” advances when you’re not ready for it.
 
Wow! I am not the only one then. I like the occassional hug and passionate kiss but not as much as my husband does. I actaully get the “willies” sometimes when I am touched! It is hard for him to understand this as he likes to be touched (so I try - holding his hand, rubbing his head or back, that kind of thing).

I wonder if physical affection is a personal thing and not “female” or “male” in nature?

I have a lot of friends who think I am wierd because I don’t like being touched and they can be somewhat jealous that I have a husband who wants to touch (theirs don’t).

Brenda V.
 
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