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I always feel embarrassed and being stared at. For instance I have bought a road bicycle, very basic and cheap model but still it has drop bars. Whenever I go for a ride I feel like people are staring at me. I dont want it. The same was when I bought new pair of shoes. It made me that I wanted to sell them just to peace myself. It happens every time I buy something new that is visible to others. I dont want to be seen, I just want to walk like every other pedestrian. Why such thoughts are harrassing me?
 
It sounds like a question for a health specialist, not for a random assortment of individuals posting on an internet forum.
 
Sounds like you are experiencing shame about yourself. Get into counseling to figure out why. Then you can experience some relief.
 
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I dont want to be seen, I just want to walk like every other pedestrian. Why such thoughts are harrassing me?
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You’ve mentioned before that you have mental health issues. The best advice any of us can give you is to speak to a mental health provider. Asking anonymous people on the internet is not the way to go.
 
For starters, everyone who has replied to you is correct; listen to them. I concur.

On a more personal note of compassion, the stuff you described sounds like anxiety. There’s a reason I picked up on that so quickly; 'nuff said. I am NOT a mental health professional, but the good news is that anxiety is treatable. You can also try praying for the intercession of St. Dymphna, one of my favorites and a good patron saint for you. I will throw in a few prayers of my own for you. Good luck, may the Lord bless you and keep you, and please talk to a mental health professional.

 
You’re suffering from shame, inordinate guilt. And, ironically perhaps, it’s connected to pride (the flip side of the same coin) which is always concerned with what others think. Pray for self-love, a virtue God designed us to have. It’s the balance between shame and pride. We are not supposed to be all things to all people, or to please them. We are simply who we are, whole and even perfect in ourselves but limited creatures relative to God-and that always means that we’ll be more or less of this or that, never “perfect” in the sense of possessing all possible qualities.

This “inordinate self-love”, as Aquinas characterized the universal human fault known as pride, is actually the culprit in making us feel either superior or inferior, unbalanced in either instance. The only way I’ve been able to deal with it is to focus on God, and get the focus off myself.
 
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Not that this will help much, but keep in mind that no one really cares enough to stare.
 
I have dwarifism. People stare every time I set foot outside. Unless someone has a very visible, severe disfiguring deformity or you dress in an ourrageous way or you are stunningly beautiful, no one is staring.
 
If I remember rightly, Babinicz, you’re a teenager. It’s pretty normal to be self-conscious as a teen. That being said, it’s worth talking over with a professional, especially since you struggle with scruples and intrusive thoughts.
 
You’re still young. Just about everyone is self-conscious at your age. I agree with on_the_hill, truly, no-one cares enough to stare. It just feels like they do.
 
I dont know. So maybe I am making up problems? But I see that others are more confident.
 
Common psychological trick. It’s called “imaginary audience.” Look it up and, once you’re aware that this is something that goes on in pretty much everyone else’s minds, too, it’ll be easier for you to settle down.
 
:thinking:I really like this answer,and can apply it to myself…for the days I feel very confident then suddenly days of feeling very self conscious.
The environment we grow up in can be a huge factor ,and hormones that go up and down?
 
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